I appreciate your passion, and I'm glad to know the adoption/foster care system is better in some states than it is here in Texas!

Also, and I've been thinking about this all day, I hate the idea that anything I've said could be taken to erase the experience of people who have adopted a child of another race. If anything, the fact that many white couples pay adoption agencies an additional fee, on average $38,000, for a white baby - this should…

I apologize for over-generalizing. I was kind of pissed off at the OP.

I love when people get the reference!

Haha, clearly, yes.

Uh, dude, even if the women were "merely" secretaries, they were still, you know, there. If men are taking risks to impress the ladies, if we are actually believing/following this argument for a minute, then it would make more sense that they take more risks when there are fewer women there as they would have to make…

Yeah, sure, if you're white. If you aren't, you will be giving that baby to a foster care system that doesn't give a shit about it.

Sure, but it does more harm than good to discuss a specific rape case in those terms. And here we are again: The top two comments are by people who I don't think are victim blaming, but who are in fact perpetuating a world in which all we ever get to discuss is the behavior of the victim. No one is saying you can't…

And here we are again, with the top comment being one that seeks not to victim blame (and I don't believe that it is your intention to victim blame) but ends up focusing the conversation, once again, on the behavior of the victim. It's not that we can never talk about this, but it causes more harm than good in this…

Guys, I am getting so tired of having this conversation, of explaining this to people.

I didn't know what RLE meant. I really appreciate you sharing your story here.

The thing is, I'm not saying clam up. I'm saying: pick a different venue to have the discussion. There are lots and lots of appropriate times to have that discussion. When you use a rape victim as a springboard for that discussion though, an actual case in the news, it derails the conversation about every other thing…

We can totally talk about it! We talk about it all the time! I don't see anything wrong with teaching people (not just girls, but all people) situational awareness and risk management. However, once someone actually rapes someone, then no, that's not really the time to rehash the discussion that we women are subjected…

Because personal responsibility and risk avoidance is a separate conversation, and one we are forced to have constantly. You can tell people that they shouldn't get blackout drunk, but if they do and someone rapes them? Shut the fuck up about it for a bit. Girls are being told every day that they are responsible for…

Which was, at best, completely unnecessary as every girl is given that message pretty much every day of their entire lives.

And we're told this every fucking day, so no, it's not really necessary to raise that question every time someone rapes someone.

Hey, guess what! We get that message every fucking day from pretty much elementary school on, so it's not that that message is not getting out there. Your comment is, at best, unnecessary.

Once again, no one is saying they can't get into something because of the color of the hero's skin. They are only saying there is an increased likelihood that you will reach more people when you have a diverse representation in popular culture. It is good for people of all races to see diversity in their…

I don't think anyone is saying that anyone "couldn't" do anything because they weren't represented. It is less a commentary on not being able to get into something because of race, and more demonstrating that kids will get into something even more, or some kids who weren't into something might be drawn into it by…

I have this urge to just say "the owls are not what they seem" anytime anything is weird, and it would be nice to have a gif for that.