She’s probably referring to all of those cows who die of old age. Somewhere. Maybe.

Michael: Since when are you against leather?

Same. Sorry to my animal pals but I love my leather purses. Especially and sadly my Italian calf leather one ;(

I didn’t click the link, but I’m hoping she meant something like leather procured from cows that were already going to be slaughtered for meat, ie, going to die anyway so you may as well use the skin for leather too.

At least, I hope so. Because I like Emma Watson and I really hope she doesn’t think you can just…

Between this expression in this topic, and the talk of removing toxic people from your life, I have been crying a lot this week. I had a best friend of 20 years who I found out was lying to me. About her health, about her family, about our friends, about pretty much everything. Isolating me from other friends so I…

I have lost two super-close friendships in the past few years, ending up with the same feeling of “burned down archives.” I have to thank you for putting words to this feeling. Both of these friends were men (I’m a woman) and it’s so interesting to me to read all these stories of mostly girlfriends’ falling out.

Thank you. I'm going through the exact same thing. My best friend of 15 years, my maid of honour, wrote me a letter this summer basically telling me she was bored of me. I hyperventilated, couldn't stop shaking, and thought I was going to pass out I was crying so badly. Trying to look at pictures, or trying to enjoy…

“like someone burned down my archives”, I feel you there! I lost my best friend to wonderlust. She went to explore the world, and never came back. Which could work if the woman would pick up the phone or answer an email, but she never did. For me, it’s more like my archives are poisoned. I still have memories, but…

This is happening to me right now. I was closer to no one in the world, and now... I hardly know what happened. We never had a big falling out. It’s a thousand little things all adding up to make me feel like I’ve lost something I can’t replace. I was her maid of honor 7 years ago and always assumed she would be mine,…

Great description of the feelings. The hard work comes in understanding that those are your feelings and why are you having them?

I’ve been ghosted. It’s the most awful feeling. In fact it occurred almost 10 years ago and I’m still not fully over it. She never told me why. We’d been best friends inseperable since middle school. Every Sunday night we would sit silently on the phone as we watched the X-Files, waiting until the commercials to talk.…

I’m so sorry you’re going through this also. The ending of a long term friendship is painful and deeply personal, and I think it doesn’t get enough credit since it wasn’t romantic. I hope you get some of the answers you’re looking for, or the distance to get “over it” faster.

i don’t know... sometimes I think it would be easier if the archives had burned down. It’s been much easier separating myself my memories and places attached to my ex-husband, than from the memories and places attached to my ex-bff. She was there twice as long as him, 15 years, reaching into places he never was, older…

Same here—very similar timeframes actually. My grieving process was more stereotypical “breakup” than any of my actual romantic relationship breakups were—lots of crying and listening to Adele. It also makes me far more sad to think about her not being a part of my life anymore than it does thinking about my ex-bfs.

It’s been just over a year now that I haven’t spoken to my best friend of 17 years. I can’t imagine not reconciling with her eventually but I also can’t imagine how to work our way back to the intimacy we had. We’ve both been on the wrong end of an argument during our friendship but this particular instance was 100%…

YES. Thats why I call mine a divorce. No relationship was ever so deep and satisfying or so devestating. I was cuckolded, completely caught off guard. Our families were shocked and saddened. She changed so much it is as if she died. I miss that old person so much.

The same thing happened to me, though we were friends for ten years. We were best friends in high school, and although our other friends acknowledge she’s changed and aren’t cool with what she did to me, they do still have some social interaction with her. I actually didn’t go to my high school reunion last year…

I was cleaning out storage this weekend and came across a huge tub of pictures of me and my old roommate (of 9 years) and best friend 20+. HS, 20s & 30s into our 40s. The relationship was problematic and her anger and bitterness that was channeled into searing sarcasm and wit when younger had morphed into bitterness…

Oh man, this hit me hard. One of my closest friends cut me out of her life after a very small disagreement. We had been friends since high school, college, bridesmaids in each others weddings, and both helped each other through some rough times. Apparently, I had done something in the past and she was just waiting for…

Its also a great way to figure out how to relate to and show love to your kids more effectively.