Ha, ha ha, haaaa. Try being a female scientist half way to a Ph.D in plant genetics, trapped in a conversation about GMOs at a party with some white guy with dreads. The layers of insult and irony in this scenario, which is somehow a fixture of my life....
MiloMinderbender
MiloMinderbender
Disagree. Ultimatums *can* be controlling and manipulative. If all you're doing is trying to get someone to do what you want, that's controlling and manipulative. But if they are honest reflections of your feelings—"I need you to stop drinking or I'm going to leave"—then they are fair.
I was seeing one of my longtime best guy friends (whom I'd kissed a couple times over the course of our friendship, but had just started, like, being with in any more significant capacity). He told me that he loved me quickly. The whole thing was very intense. I'd been hearing rumors from mutual friends that he was…
if you feel like you are unsafe with your romantic partner, please call the Domestic Abuse hotline, at:
Eighth grade: my class is putting on some stupid play for our religion class and I'm doing the costumes because 1) I'm known for that kind of thing and 2) I'm not popular enough to be in the play, or have friends. While working in the "wings" (eh, poor school, shitty facilities), three classmates come back and decide…
This is a story of how one of the worst days of my life ended up reaffirming my faith in strangers and in the human race in general.
Mid-December 2013, my boyfriend of three years unceremoniously dumped me via Facebook chat. Among other things, he told me that he didn't want to get into another relationship for a long time. A week and a half later, I got a call from a friend who noticed a bunch of pictures of him and another girl, one I knew had a…
Awwwwwwwwwww. My family still does "It's PRECIOUS TO MEEEEEEE," because that's what I would sob at my mother when she'd throw away the garbage/scraps of rando paper from under my bed.
as a too-old-to-throw-tantrums child, 8 or 9, after a day hiking, Dad would not let me bring my walking stick home in the car. My filthy, rotting, branch I'd been using as a walking stick. Complete meltdown, screaming sobbing in the mud;
I think I should bring it up on the 5th date, but I don't think I should scare her off just yet. I'm medicated but not in proper therapy. I have difficulties with emotional intimacy (even before my ex, who practically got off on violating me emotionally and sometimes sexually). It took me years to even tell people…
Once a guy breaking up with me told me that I am a "sweet person." I still want to stab him in the face, years later.
I don't even know that he's that way because he really likes her, I just think she represents a time for him when he was most successful and loved and full of potential. /armchairpsych
I have a mantra; never be with someone who doesn't make your life better. It's really the bare minimum they can do. And I'm not talking about money - I'm saying they should make your day brighter, make you laugh, ask if they can bring home Indian food cause you're feeling sick. If you're doing all the heavy lifting,…
Honest question: Why are you with this person?
He kind of seems like a bad guy, actually.
He really wasn't a bad guy... but he just fell apart and became a completely insensitive dick when I needed him the most
Men are selfish and not dependable. More at 11.
Don't hit a slug with a weedwacker because you never know where the pieces will fly.