I live in this neighborhood and I can confirm that it is hideous.
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MiloMinderbender
The amicus brief isn’t his writing, but the idea of “mismatch” comes directly out of this document.
I’ve heard that you should slow down, turn on your flashers and your interior light and then drive slowly to a safe location. But who knows if that actually works?
One more reason to live in Southern California.
My niece’s middle name is “Rook.” I actually really like it.
In my experience, it can be very helpful to be explicit that you want to be totally supportive but that this is new to you so you’d like for [your brother] to let you know if/when you do or say thing that don’t feel wholly supportive. Let yourself be corrected, accept it graciously, and be a model for the rest of your…
Does your school have a writing center? That might be a good resource!
Whoooo boy, do you have A LOT to learn about straight males!
Is it bulletproof?
Here’s how I understood it: nothing really fully protects you from a bad guy who’s determined to do a bad thing. But flowers and candles (and everything they symbolize) protect us from cynicism and meanness and living lives characterized by fear (and all of the other goals of terrorism).
I don’t - but I know many. Gift war!
Because she pays you. And probably makes more than you. And most likely, some of that pay disparity is up to her (i.e., she decides how much to pay you, what your bonus is, how much of a raise you get, etc.) It can’t ever be free of a weird power dimension and it’s awkward for your boss. In the not-so-obvious…
Oh no, I got an enthusiastic “he loved it so much!! What a good idea!” but my organization is kind of a cult (December 31 is my last day).
One year a support staff person decided to organize a pool to buy a gift for our executive director and after first saying no, I had to finally give in and participate because the alternative was to be the asshole who refused. It was awkward all around.
3 out of 3 bosses agree!
I’m firmly team “do not buy gifts for your boss”. You can gift down (your staff, assistant, etc.) but gifting up is awkward unless you have a significant personal friendship. Your boss doesn’t want you to spend money on her.
So then why does he need to be asked?
Do you not see that noticing this and asking for something different is also work? It will then require negotiating and teaching and reminding and reinforcing. All of it: work.
Do you really think that she doesn’t already know? The very last thing that she needs is for the people who love her to repeat all of the terrible things that she hears day in and day out.