In my experience, it can be very helpful to be explicit that you want to be totally supportive but that this is new to you so you’d like for [your brother] to let you know if/when you do or say thing that don’t feel wholly supportive. Let yourself be corrected, accept it graciously, and be a model for the rest of your…
MiloMinderbender
MiloMinderbender
Does your school have a writing center? That might be a good resource!
I don’t - but I know many. Gift war!
Because she pays you. And probably makes more than you. And most likely, some of that pay disparity is up to her (i.e., she decides how much to pay you, what your bonus is, how much of a raise you get, etc.) It can’t ever be free of a weird power dimension and it’s awkward for your boss. In the not-so-obvious…
Oh no, I got an enthusiastic “he loved it so much!! What a good idea!” but my organization is kind of a cult (December 31 is my last day).
One year a support staff person decided to organize a pool to buy a gift for our executive director and after first saying no, I had to finally give in and participate because the alternative was to be the asshole who refused. It was awkward all around.
3 out of 3 bosses agree!
I’m firmly team “do not buy gifts for your boss”. You can gift down (your staff, assistant, etc.) but gifting up is awkward unless you have a significant personal friendship. Your boss doesn’t want you to spend money on her.
So then why does he need to be asked?
Do you not see that noticing this and asking for something different is also work? It will then require negotiating and teaching and reminding and reinforcing. All of it: work.
Do you really think that she doesn’t already know? The very last thing that she needs is for the people who love her to repeat all of the terrible things that she hears day in and day out.
I just think there are so many voices out there ready to tell you that you’re not pretty enough, not skinny enough, boobs aren’t big enough, skin isn’t pale enough, etc., etc., etc. Your home should be a sanctuary. You’ll get plenty of that out in the world; no one needs to come home to it.
I’ve had my Mirena for almost a year and I am like an IUD commercial. The BEST part is that I hardly have a period at all anymore ever.
I totally agree. Believing that you can force a woman to carry within her own body a pregnancy that she does not want in order to further your own objectives does sound a lot like slavery to me.
It’s my experience that if a person is thinking about treatment, it is long past time. And if they’re motivated (not pushed into it by family), they’re much more likely to be successful.
That’s not totally true. I look at cover letters, scheduling emails, and resumes for evidence of writing skills. If you know what to look for, those can reveal a whole lot.
I have washed my face every night with jojoba oil (and a few drops of lavender) for years now, and it has never been better.
I don’t know about that one specifically but I’ve used others that definitely work in the brow-al regions.
Use it as lube for EVERYTHING!