So then this dad should take it to the school board. Rally parents! Organize students! Tell them he wants to rewrite the dress code! If they don’t listen, vote them out of office. I’m not saying this is the most best ultimate ideal dress code - but it isn’t unreasonable.

But here’s the thing, I had a student once come in wearing what was clearly a sexy adult negligee as a dress (over leggings and a tshirt so it was fine). But in this example, would it be ok to make her change cause she’s not wearing the right kind of spaghetti strap? And who gets to decide?

You know what I liked wearing when I was 5? Leotards (with nothing else - which is clearly the only way to wear a leotard) You know what I was not allowed to wear to school? A leotard. One guess what I wore all the time at home...

I guess I’d rather just have one rule for everyone (no spaghetti straps) than leave it to a teacher or principal to decide whose spaghetti straps are ok and when.

Well, this dress code shown here says no “loose” or “baggy” clothes and specifies that pants must be worn at the waist or hip. So, like two minutes ago?

I don’t like the assumption that boys would only shop in the boys’ section. This message seems to be in conflict with the ideal of a gender-neutral dress code.

But that’s just not true. Boys at my school had gender-specific rules about how they could wear their hair and what accessories were permissible.

I’m torn about this. It is age-neutral but it’s also gender-neutral - which is a thing that I really appreciate. (I’m not gonna get into whether it’s enforced that way.) I know that when a member of my family had to write a dress code for a federal agency, he was very careful to word it in a way that any person had to…

I’ve been using talkspace.com for a few months now and I really like it! I have a very responsive therapist and I recommend checking it out.

But you don’t apologize in order to make things right for whatever you think you might want in the future, you apologize because you did an unkind thing. That’s it. Then you leave him in peace.

Did you see that scene in the last season of Girls? The context is not important, but what happens is boy rejects girl saying “I don’t think you’re right for me” and girl says “I’m not who you think I am.” Boy says “I think you’re exactly who I think you are. I don’t think you’re who you think you are.”

This strikes me as really manipulative: ultimately what you’re doing is presenting yourself in a calculated way to control the perceptions and reactions of others. And that is, for me, exactly the opposite of who I want to know myself as (and be known as).

I agree with you (and I’m a feminist and labor activist by training). This is work that is systematically undervalued in our society - likely because it’s the sort of work that women do now and historically, women have been expected to do for free. There is no shame in domestic work and one step towards increasing the…

I went to a non-Chicago university with a Pritzker kid and I always wonder just what he did to fuck that up.

My (now ex) boyfriend was coming back from a weekend trip early in the morning with a friend. He asked if I could pick them up at the airport around 6am and drop them both off at work which I didn’t mind doing. I even stopped on the way and bought them both coffee and bananas since they didn’t have time to go home…

My ex was 39 and had a roommate. And also, his bedroom had no door. I think you can fill in the rest yourself.

This is 100% true. It's also the #1 indicator that you are Not Boyfriend Material.

There are a lot of reasons to participate but one big one is that standardized tests and all their accompanying preparation and anxiety are part of just about any academic pathway that a kid might head down. Not counting the SATs and ACTs just to go to college - you’ve got to take the MCAT to go to med school or the…

Oh, I can admit that it’s no accident that now I drive a very nice car and carry a very nice handbag. (Not really out of reach for me with my current income, but certainly not necessities.)

This starts so early. I was always the kid with the less-cool version of whatever the must-have thing was. (Purely for reasons of being poor and it being even slightly cheaper and my mom trying to do her best.) And honestly, it’s taken me a long time to live down that feeling.