Chill is the domain of the young (and the eternally immature). Once you hit mid-30s, chill is another word for paralyzing fear of intimacy and/or commitment. Some people are comfortable in that space for a lifetime, but if you’re on the receiving end of it and you want more, it’s time to start calling it what it is.

I can’t bear to watch the video but I am so damn glad that someone made one. There should be a reward for whoever filmed this.

But NO ONE said that you must defer. “The problem we have here is that people insist that you defer...” No. No one insisted on that. You created a problem where there wasn’t one just to have something to argue with.

Could you point me to the place where I (or anyone else in this thread) “insisted” that you “must” defer any time someone with more experience disagrees with you? Or are you just arguing with a point that I didn’t make?

Then by your own reasoning, why would your individual observation be the slightest bit meaningful? You’re also just one person.

It has never in my life happened to me that someone with a lived experience that contradicted or added unanticipated nuance to my opinion did not have “good reason”. It’s an unnecessary qualifier which only exists to provide an out for people who want to persist in their perceptions despite a contrary narrative from…

The point is not “I’m unqualified” but rather “I have an opinion but I also am prepared to defer to the judgment of people who have the first-person lived experience.”

It’s true! People don’t have more sex the longer they’re together. Unless he’s getting sober or otherwise going through some very intensive internal reformatting, you need to accept this as-is.

I learned that lesson (the hard way, obviously) - years later when I was teaching elementary school, I always made sure to tell my students that if it was an emergency, it’s ok to just go. You can explain when you get back.

I was in sixth grade at a new school and I wasn’t feeling great in my social studies class (with the cute young teacher, too). We were working on an assignment so I walked up to the front of the room to ask if I could be excused to the restroom. And when I opened my mouth to ask, I puked all over his desk.

When I was a junior associate at a very big law firm, a senior female associate (who is now a partner) used to compliment my clothes a lot. Once I was in her office to discuss a case and she said to me, in front of a female partner, “you always look so good - can I hire you to buy my clothes for me?” Lady, I have a…

Prolly the library? I hear they sometimes do that kind of thing.

That scene earlier in the season when he was teaching Barry how to box? I was chanting "kiss, kiss, kiss." The chemistry was much better between the two of them than either of them have with Iris.

My mom kept a fake "microsoft technician" on the phone for at least 40 minutes once doing this. "Which identification code do you need? Where is it? Oh, do you have it? Could you read it to me; hold on I don't have a pen... What do you mean I can't call microsoft back about this?"

Hasn't Common been with Serena Williams for a while? Or did I miss that breakup?

You know you better than anyone else does. And I encourage you to try to open up with this new person - just don't forget that she's a person with emotional needs and expectations too.

I don't think you need to give up on it, but I do think you should be honest with her (and yourself). I recently had a very sad breakup with someone who is depressed - he goes to therapy but is unmedicated - and it really came down to his being unable to become fully emotionally vulnerable, no matter how much we both…

Keep your scar out of the sun! Put sunscreen over it and maybe even a bandage or wrap. It's sun exposure that really 'sets' a scar.

"Do you want me to take out the trash?" is my biggest pet peeve. Oh no, please don't. I was saving that trash and really looking forward to taking it out myself.

It hurt but it wasn't unbearable. I then had cramping for a few weeks after but nothing that I couldn't manage with some motrin and a heating pad.