Shave ice. Not "shaved" ice.

As I am currently mid-marathon, I feel compelled to point out that their home (where that, and most of their scenes, take place) is not in Stars Hollow, it's in Hartford.

Accept it and be supportive. If it's just curiosity, that will be satisfied. If it's a phase, it will pass. If it's attention-seeking, you'll meet that need. If it's genuine, there's no risk. There is no danger to offering your unrestrained support.

Yeah, I guess my point is that still seems to be true (in my experience) and I was wondering what the author bases her conclusions on.

But the article doesn't address this at all. That's my original point. We seem to agree that there's an inverse correlation between age (which is linked to earning capacity) and number of available people in the marriage pool. Where those two lines intersect is beside the point. The author never addresses this…

As I made clear in my original post, I am just referencing my own experience in one major city while working in a high-status, high-income industry. Nearly all of my age-cohort coworkers were already married by the time we started making anything that would be described as "high" incomes ($150K+).

I've got replies from someone else saying exactly the opposite (high earners wait longer to pair up)!

I guess I wasn't really thinking of someone who's only been making that salary for a year or two. And is likely also still paying off significant debt.

What makes you conclude that wealthy or high-status men would delay marriage longer? When I was working in a high-income industry, nearly every man in my age group (late 20s, early 30s) was married and most had been for several years (since their early-mid 20s). Their partners were also generally (but not always)…

This is my point though, by the time a man is old enough to be "successful," he's probably also already reached certain personal milestones. Unless it didn't appeal to him (i.e., he didn't want to get married).

Maybe around $150k? Perhaps a little less, depending on where you live.

I'm curious about her conclusions about high-income women and the supposed buyer's market that they've got. I would guess that probably applies to older people who may be looking at a second marriage after some maturing and life experience? Because in my experience, there are very few never-married successful men in…

Propose a list! Everyone's willing to shop off a list if it means that you'll shop off of theirs. Lists can be very specific, with a link and size/color preference or very general: "a new watch." The only problem is when someone (perhaps your boyfriend) decides not to ever add anything to his list because he's a…

Some state constitutions do protect free speech rights in shopping centers (California, for example), but not all of them.

Not the first amendment, but state state constitutional free speech protections do extend to shopping centers (in limited ways). That's only in about 6-8 states.

My partner and I do very much explicitly think of our relationship as a third, separate entity. Sort of like the Holy Ghost. There are things that aren't always what either of us quite want but they're good for the relationship so that's what we choose. It's working for us so far.

You could wait for a moment where it makes sense, maybe you're having a sleepover and so you need to take your medication? Or you want to schedule your dinner date a little later because you have therapy? A promising partner might have questions or want more information or reassurance - but unless you think that…

I mentioned above that I work in public interest and my mom is a social worker with the chronically homeless. One important thing I learned from her is that for a lot of people, just being acknowledged is much more important than money. And it makes sense, right? We would all rather have someone look us in the eye…

It's my practice to never ignore a person, I always try to make eye contact and say hello or "Sorry" (unless that feels unsafe). But I never give money. I might give half a sandwich, if I'm heading home from lunch or something like that.

You know that no matter what, these people do come home, right? Almost everyone in prison comes back to the community at some point. So if that person moves in next door to your family, what sort of experience do you want them to have had?