Yup. The top comment is deranged. The article is a measured assessment of a nearly 100 year life. So, the tone is not worshipful. Well, tough shit. Nobody lives a completely rosy 96 years at the height of power.

Here’s a link to the Vogue piece, in case anyone wants to read more than the quotes pulled out for this article. Much like the article on Emily Ratajkowski’s book recommendations, I think this one is a little unfair to her. The essay is less about gender identity and more a collection of musings about Ratajkowski’s…

From the quoted essay: “Everyone laughs at this. There is a truth to our line, though, ”

YES. My mother grew up with a mother who used her as a marriage therapist. with the marriage between my mom’s parents, and her second marriage. It was wrong, and it caused so many issues for my mom. The up side is that she absolutely REFUSED to do the same to my siblings and I. And it is only after becoming and adult…

You were not responsible for your parent’s marriage. You were not responsible for your dad’s affair. You were not appointed, nor expected to be, your parent’s marriage counselor. You are their CHILD, not an unbiased professional. You are not responsible for your father failing to reach to your mother because that was…

summer mode

Not to mention those surrogates who do it because they enjoy the experience of being pregnant and giving birth. 

agreed. I’m gay and my partner and I are going through surrogacy and the judgement in this comment section has been real wild. They choose to downplay the fact that there are thousands of women willing to do this process not just for the money but to allow for same sex couples to have children. Our surrogate, in…

It’s interesting to hear the perspective of someone who works in child protection systems. I have heard that there is a recent push towards family reunification in fostering so it isn’t like a “direct to adoption” shortcut like some people assume it is. And you bring up really great points about the racial and class…

Thank you. People who either don’t have children or have been able to have their own biological children LOVE to scold infertile or gay couples on how they should be fostering/adopting. If their arguement is so strong why don’t THEY adopt? Why are the couples who need extraordinary measures to have a biological child…

It sucks being a liberal and actually caring to mince the details of what someone did.

If you’re fertile, fine, knock yourself out I guess. But if you’re spending tens of thousands of dollars to have a child, go get one that really needs you.

Uh, no. Infertile women do not have to be the designated group that “takes one for the team” just because they can’t conceive naturally. Adoption is not for everyone. And one’s ability or inability to ovulate naturally is not the determinant factor that makes them suitable or unsuitable to adopt.

You’re telling other people, who didn’t ask to be struck with the devastating condition of infertility, how to spend their money in order to solve a social problem that you also aren’t willing to solve yourself. Here’s the equivalent in a scenario that you can apply to your own life: Spending your money on food bank…

Would you like to tell that to my friends who have had three consecutive birth mothers change their minds after delivery, sending them home with empty arms and broken hearts?

Is that eight months of rent on a nice ranch house and yard? Haha, no. Maybe four months. The housing crisis in California is real. 

Never forget!

A Hole Vera

Butter lettuce doesn’t have the crispness necessary for some salads.  

Romaine is better for you in almost every nutritional category (it has almost 3 times the Vitamin A, for instance, though in many categories the difference is negligible), but I will accept butter lettuce as a substitute while romaine is dangerous.