Wow, I’m so sorry about your mum and brother.

I don’t think anyone is saying no one should EVER get them, just that they’re overused. I’m glad it was a helpful experience for you.

I’m so sorry birth trauma affected your relationship so severely. My mom had a really rough time with my brother due to dr incompetence and their relationship is STILL rocky. I swear it started there. That process and those early moments, if fucked up, can really leave lasting effects.

Dr Snip? Holy fuck. Why do people become OBs if they hate birth so much???

My mother had the same thing with me, and the trauma she sustained from it has actually damaged our relationship to the point we are no longer on speaking terms. She was lucky enough to have an easier birth with my brother (she had an embolism and required multiple transfusions, but it was less traumatic on her body…

My favorite part about this entire story is how a wealthy, adult, white woman with a six-figure job who confessed under oath to holding a minority woman hostage for two years has the FREAKING BALLS to refer to herself as a “slave.”

Don’t tar us all with the same brush! I’m just a pervert. 

I truly hope these women get the emotional support they need. It’s easy to forget that even privileged women and in our sisterhood and we wouldn’t wish this harm on anyone.

Part of me: You shouldn’t kink shame.

Nancy Salzman deserves so much worse than she is going to get by pleading guilty. As the mouthpiece for this cult she legitimized the brainwashing under the guise of rigorous scientific process. It was her “research” that paved the way for KR to brainwash hundreds and abuse countless women. 

My aunt and uncle were involved in a cult of sorts at one point in the south. Not a sex slave cult, though; more like a smooth-talking Joel Osteen church-type cult where the dude preached some batshit nonsense, took all the money from his followers over time and ended up absconding to somewhere in the Caribbean.

Yep. My mistake was going into labor on a Sunday when the attending OB had other plans. The first thing he said to me was that he was going to break my water. I told him no.  He didn’t like that. I was 9.5 cm dilated when I walked into the hospital, by the way. It’s not like it was gonna be very long. 

My sister-in-law wanted a natural birth. She had a midwife but ended up having to go to the hospital. I’m not sure how explicit she was with her doctor about not wanting an episiotomy, but they gave her one and she tore all the way to her anus. After she was released she ended up with a severe infection and ended up…

Those bastards can’t wait to get to their golf game.

Jesus Wept.  You should have returned with a court summons...

Thank you, I think I got in a light kick to his left shoulder. When the horrified nurse told him what he had neglected to do, he said, “Oh well, it’s too late now.”

I hope you succeeded, a kick to the face would have been well-deserved.

Fucking yes and thank you.

I had them done with both of my daughters’ births. As I mentioned in another post, the doctor that delivered my older daughter forgot to numb me before he started cutting. I was able to free one leg from the stirrup and tried to kick him.

My friends gave who gave birth in Europe say the common practice among doctors now is to let women tear naturally if it occurs, rather than pre-emptively cutting women (except in cases like when a baby’s shoulders are stuck, etc.). Only one of my friends had an episiotomy and it was actually done after she’d given…