And my point was that it doesn't matter whether or not you want to have sex with one; a man showing up to a party about women's complicated relationship to their bits – because playground bullies, unfortunate sex partners, and an entire pharma industry have taught us they're nasty – and being all "no offense, but…

There was actually a great post about this on Jez a few years back, written by a gay guy: http://jezebel.com/5798258/when-g…

You know being gay doesn't disqualify you from being a misogynist, right? Man crotch can smell funky as hell, too, if it's not the crotch you want. Gay guys saying vaginas are gross as a way of reaffirming their sexuality is as much a power move as straight bros saying the same. I'm sure you mean well, I've just heard…

I've heard whore's bath, but I've also heard the same called a French bath (also used for dousing yourself in perfume or cologne) because to the American mind "French" is either a synonym for "whorish" or "stinky."

Britain chose to have measles vaccination be voluntary for a long time, and so up until the mid-'80s, there were still about 10,000 cases a year. Most of the illnesses she lists are only rare because of vaccinations, and they were chosen for vaccine prevention because they are highly contagious and dangerous, and at…

People need to stop with the judging and the craziness. Many, many people are descended from women who drank during their pregnancies, because for a lot of history, in many parts of the world, drinking weak alcohol was a good way to avoid getting dysentery and dying. The fears of FAS and total ban on drinking didn't…

God, when is this movie out already? I keep having phantom limb syndrome that I missed it somehow, because the trailer was released ages ago.

Can we talk about her use of Shaun Ross? He's previously played a similarly silent and naked being in Katy Perry's "ET." While the Crosley made a serious misstep in conflating Hispanic heritage and cholo gangster culture, the origin point of this piece – that an extremely privileged white girl is flirting with…

Not even touching LDR, I can't stand her or her pre-purchased "fame" – but Gwen Stefani, shit. One the one hand she represents a kind of femininity we don't see enough of, tough, fit, punky but also girly, has kids and a business and a hot husband, appears to be the decider in her own life. On the other hand, she is…

On a design level some of them are kind of interesting, but there a number of shoe designers doing more challenging, jaw-dropping stuff. As "art" – reducing women to stale categories "heartbreaker, ice queen, hot bitch" and then reducing them further to objects that you walk on, wear out, and change seasonally, is so…

The author might not have done her research, but you're clearly not familiar with the Smurfette principle – in which there is only ONE female in an ensemble of male characters, who while being badass and knowing how to handle a gun and being smarter than the men, is still required to be sexy and a love interest for…

It makes marginally sense when you know that the producers and director are Israeli – God comes down at the end in a golden cadillac to save his virtuous kibbutzing hippy children, including the protagonists, who've survived Sodom + Gomorrah and made it to where the chosen people are. You have to dig through a lot of…

Voodoo apple, juju apple! Do it!

The synchronized dance moves and high kicks! Even in hell!

Thanks for republishing! I loved this piece when I read it on Sociological Images, and I'm happy it's getting a wider audience.

"but it was lovely to meet someone who didn't require explanation, justification, and constant defense." THIS. I've gone back and forth about whether to call myself bi, mostly because errrbody's got an opinion on that subject (I'm sexually attracted to some women, but *mostly* heteroromantic) in any event, yes, bi men…

This and the Maria Bello story on the same day - yes, yes, yes. So glad society is finally tiptoeing into being comfortable with sexuality as a spectrum instead of a binary.

The worst part is that that cultural trope got started with messages in fortune cookies

Oh, well played.

I dunno, I mean, I eschew random hook-ups, but I'm not saving it for luurrve (or emotional connection or whatever) more like I'm saving it for a conversation. One-night stands are usually based around role-playing and saying and doing exactly the right provocative thing – which, sure it's hot and it sometimes works –…