Feminists want to eliminate rape as much as possible. Someone who is pro-rape is, as a result, not a feminist.

You just keep on misunderstanding me. Is my writing that unclear? What I meant is the following: if sociopaths, like you said earlier, infiltrate feminism as a way to avoid being seen as sexists, for example, then we don't want them to do that. Feminists are human, humans make mistakes. I was however talking about the…

Uh? Okay, there's no use in continuing this conversation. I tried.

That is not what I meant. My point was that people who abuse feminism are not wanted by us, legitimate feminists.

What on earth are you blabbering about? It is everyone's responsability not to hurt people. God, that's difficult, isn't it?

First paragraph: yes and no. It can be very painful physically as well, even without the use of "extra" violence. I was lucky, compared to most others, in that way, but it still hurt. If a woman is not wet, sex will be painful. If a woman has sex for a very long time, it may be painful. Now combine those two and…

I expect everyone, male and female, to learn enough self-control to not hurt people, preferably without hurting someone first. But I believe that my original point was that if someone has trouble not hurting people when they're drunk, they should not get drunk.

Obviously the second category is the worst, but my point was that it's wrong to forbid women to drink because men (or so you claim) can't control themselves. Maybe those men should work on controlling themselves instead of forbidding women to drink...

I don't know, rape is kind of a line. I think what made it stand out (compared to being beaten up several times a day, for example) was that I didn't know how far it would go. I always thought the people who sexually assaulted me before just didn't know, but my rapist, he knew what he was doing all too well. He asked…

If they have no self-control, like you claim (which is a pile of bullshit, but whatever), then they're the ones who shouldn't be drinking...

Oh yes, one last thing: in that case, please forget about the 8% of rape accusations being false because it is wrong.

This is just gettig ridiculous, really. What on earth is the link between being a rape victim and the criminal underworld? It just doesn't make sense...

You're in the grey but the guy above isn't? Ridiculous. I'm not sure if this will fix it but I can at least try, right? :) also, I'm sorry for what you had to go through, and everyone claiming it's not rape can go fuck themselves.

That's sweet. They will, the worst is already behind me so I'll be fine.

Possible. Do note that I said rape or assault: for example, I don't consider a random dude on the tram grabbing my breasts rape, but I do consider it assault.

Thanks. :)

Oh, I see. I wrote "alcohol would not have prevented any of this" instead of "not drinking would not have prevented any of this". My apologies. I was a little bit confused indeed; exams are taking their toll, it seems.

Proud? Either I have failed completely at writing, or you at reading. I just mentioned it because you did make it seem like you believed it was my drinking that was the problem - it's possible I misunderstood, but that's what I read in your comment. Most of the times I was raped or assaulted happened when I was…

What that means is that your advice is useless because you can never know for sure whether someone is to be trusted.

Everyone has their ways of coping. There is no "right way" to handle trauma, and judging other people for theirs is a very shitty thing to do.