Any unwanted sexual contact is assault or rape. End of discussion. No one needs outsiders telling them that their experience isn't legit.

A trusted friend doesn't mean anything. I've been raped multiple times in the presence of a "trusted friend".

I've only ever gotten drunk in the company of people I trusted, people who I considered my best friends, or in groups. I did not choose to be betrayed like that; and never drinking would have avoided precisely one time when I was taken advantage of, and it is the time I don't even fully consider assault. If you want…

That's horrible. :/

This is not a contest, nor did I mean for it to be. I just wanted to say that people's reactions weren't the worst part at all, not to me, either way.

No, actually the rape was the worst. I've never been very good at making friends so I'm used to being alone. That hurt, sure, but nowhere near the amount of pain the rape gave me.

No, rape in and of itself is horrible. It's true that it may have been slightly better if people didn't react the way they did, but rape itself is and stays a horrible thing. The powerlessness alone is enough to make you feel like shit. I had to lay there for hours and hours while he hurt me, and there was nothing I…

(I'll look at the website after my exams, I just don't have time for it right now)

Believe me, I was scared of being raped from the moment I started to get boobs. I was so sheltered back then that I'd never even read anything about rape. And you're right about fear of being murdered after the fact - I'm still scared, 3 years later, that he'd come after me. I feel lucky for being alive, but that…

3 years ago. Because there was no physical violence, and I was drunk, and I had sex with him before, people seem to think that it doesn't count.

The result of people thinking being falsely accused is worse and more frequent than rape is that no one believes rape victims.

Destruction of the lives of the rapist? Ah, boohoo. Poor rapists. How about they stop destructing their victims' lives?

No, studies mention anything between 0.2% and 8%. I have never seen any study that says "at least 8%". Like I said before, you'd have to be pretty crazy to make a false accusation because it is so humiliating to report, the questions they ask, and so on. In my case there was video evidence. Do you think people like to…

So anyone who speaks out about rape is a rapist? Well aren't you a lovely human being...

I think people may just not know about what you've just said. I didn't, for example. If there are people who call themselves feminists but know what you just said and chose to spread misinformation so as to protect rapists, I don't consider them feminists, it's that simple.

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Yes, exactly.

"many false allegations" *cough cough* sure, believe whatever you want to believe.

If women shouldn't be allowed to drink because it makes them easier victims, maybe it's men who shouldn't drink if that turns them into rapists (which it doesn't - if someone only rapes when drunk, they are using it as an excuse because they know people will forgive him because hey, he was drunk, don't expect him to…

I've already corrected myself. I should not have said that it doesn't happen, because there probably are a couple of people crazy enough to do it. However, what bothers me most about the whole thing is that so many people just use it to shift the focus away from actual rape, which is much more frequent and a lot…