Maybe I should mention that I'm from a small European country that doesn't have a war on drugs. I can definitely imagine this being an issue in the US, though, so you're probably right if you take urslola's comment into account as well.

As a white, not poor, naive, sheltered underage girl I was pretty much the perfect victim. If what you say is true, then I can't even imagine how they would have treated me if I hadn't been any of those.

I'm white, and my family isn't rich but we get by. I doubt class was the reason they treated me the way they did.

If you insist - do you want to know why I was drinking that night? He had raped me the night before (and no, I wasn't drunk that time) and I was trying to temporarily forget about it so as to be able to still have at least some fun on my own birthday party. My then-best friend was there and he said he would look after…

That's a relief. :)

Amazing/depressing.

But... But... I'm wearing decent, fully covering clothes, no make-up, I'm not drunk, I'm home alone and the door is locked, I've already done everything I can to avoid getting raped! You're right, I should probably fail my exams so that the lack of sleep can't make me incoherent because if I get raped while…

Unfortunately nothing will help people avoid being raped, except for being harsher on rapists. People who take the craziest measures to avoid being raped may still end up being raped. And if the point is "avoid anything that could possibly result in getting raped" you might as well add "so that the rapist picks…

Okay, I just wanted to make sure. They do happen, it was wrong of me to deny that. The main issue remains rape, though, and the focus on false accusations can be harmful because it often shifts the attention away from rape, which remains the bigger problem of the two.

Even if she went to his house to do the deed he could still have raped her. Not saying that's what happened here, but a lot of rapes start out consensually, then suddenly one person turns violent, for example.

Look, I have been bullied quite severely for years. I know the difference between rape and bullying. However horrible the bullying got, it never made me want to kill myself to escape. It never made me want to kill the perpetrators, slowly and painfully, and believe me, the bullying was bad. I was beaten daily, or more…

Huh?

That's why I think there have to be harsher punishments for rape, combined with psychological help for those who need it (in prison or otherwise locked up because in therapy or not, I do not want them on the streets until I can be sure they won't rape anymore), and a harsher condemnment of rape in general by our…

Probably not, then.

My apologies, I promise I will get back to you later, but right now exams and a lack of sleep have left me unable to formulate a coherent sentence, let alone read one, so my reply will have to wait a little longer.

Yes, thank you.

Newsflash: having consensual sex with someone before doesn't make it impossible for the situation to change and to turn into rape. If I were to say to a friend, for example, "we can have sex", but tomorrow the person I willingly had sex with turns up at my place in the middle of the night, breaks down my door and…

Yes, that's true. However, the problem is that people seem to go with innocent until proven guilty for the rapist, and guilty until proven innocent for the victim, and that's a mentality that I wouldn't mind changing. So yes, there will probably be a couple of false rape accusations on every thousands upon thousands…

I'd say, one person says stop, the other stops immediately. Unless maybe if they didn't hear it or something, but then the other person might already feel raped. I mean, that would be one of those rare cases of "accidental rape", although to miss someone saying stop, you'd have to already not really been paying…

I think if he continues (even for a short time), that's rape.