Yeah, I’m not seeing a lot of solutions in her answers, you know? Maybe it can help someone to recognize what the root of the problem is, but those things still need to be solved.

Aesthetically, I often love veils - when I was looking for dresses I saw a couple pictures of women completely covered in the thinnest gossamer veil and it was glorious. I also had a dress with a train, because I love clothing drama, and it would have worked. However, a friend of mine got married in a conservative…

I recently had a neighbor tell me “you know how they’re banning the confederate flag? I bought one, while I still can get one, to piss people off!”

Yeah, it’s people who support the confederate flag who tend to be completely oblivious - possibly willfully - to the actual history.

Yeah, usually I was just like “you want a bridezilla? You’ll get a bridezilla when this process is so much worse because you didn’t listen to me.”

Eh, I do sometimes let him do all the actual work on other things - he planned a large amount of our honeymoon. We’re pretty talented at fighting cats and dogs through all aspects of a process to come out both content at the end.

Yes! I usually just HAVE to go “oh well, fuck it, guess this is how I’ll look” but I still hate it. I’ve been trying to only buy sports bras with padding, but sometimes that’s hard.

I just tell myself that my intense aversion to any daddy-dom play means that they are not at all connected.

I am still pissy about my flower-ordering process because 1. it was insanely expensive and 2. I just wanted a very small amount of flowers and because it was a Wedding and thus Important I had to go through a huge ordeal.

All spankings did for me was make me afraid of my father, and as an adult occasionally irrationally convinced that my husband is going to hit me when I really, really fuck something up.

YES I had already seen this on facebook ages ago, shared by the ever-growing number of moms I apparently used to know. (I am NOT THAT OLD and a high school friend has kids in middle school. WHAT.)

My husband is pretty freaking intractable, but I suppose that’s part of his crotchety charm.

Yes! And now I want one. I have very large hands and a bold ring would do well.

To this day mine will say that “the bridesmaid necklaces were ehh” with no ability to describe what “ehh” means. I caved on so many things (including that damn cake) but for the necklaces and dress I told him to deal with it.

I bet a stupid amount of it went to high end things -designer clothing, the “best” cake, etc. And to what looks like a full crew of videographers.

I almost like it, which was surprising considering how most huge diamond-encrusted rings are sort of terrible. I think I would like it better if the biggest stone were a fraction of the size. It looks like a tiara, but like a tiara that wouldn’t balance because of that stone.

Is it normal for people to cheer like that when the bride is coming down the aisle?

YES. So yes. I spent hours and hours on Pinterest and then Google, picking out things and then finding them, usually with his tastes in mind. Then he’d just be like, uh no not that one. Aughhh.

Oh yeah, I know people who complain about the bright shoe trend. I’m sorry, I am wearing this to exert myself absurdly much in, I want it all to be super bright. I don’t care if it matches.

As a larger-boobed runner, I often wish mine would disappear for races - the bouncing is annoying, but apparently I do not own a single sports bra that is padded enough that my damn nipples don’t show through in every picture. I have a winter running jacket that looks hilarious, because the hood is snug and cinches…