Sadly, it is. I’ve seen one or two profiles on dating sites where a guy states they don’t want virgins.

Guys who get creepy about virgins and “taking someone’s virginity” are not good guys. Also, that expression needs to die

Amen. How the hell is a sunroof dependent on leather seats?

Allocation of options based on “Packages” really is an insanely stupid system. I understand that some things are bundled together due to the BCM(Body Control Module) design but for the life of me I cannot figure out why an engine choice would preclude navigation in a car. I’m looking directly at you Ford.

Or if she does speak up loudly and insistently, “Why couldn’t you just play nice? You’re far too difficult to work with as an actor!”

Or the inverse happens - “geez, why is she YELLING? It’s like women can’t argue rationally - and they’re SO shrill”.

I can’t believe she’s getting shit for not being able to yell over top of that group of douche bros. Have the people castigating her ever BEEN in that situation? Because I have, and good luck with making your voice heard of their endless, loud, testosterone fueled  yawping.

I think it’s a combination of a LOT of factors. It’s peer pressure, gender dynamics in group environments, projection, bystander effect and fear of reprisals.

I have also been a dubious witness to this sort of behavior. Do you think they close ranks because they are scared and projecting? I think that many of these dudes remember times when they committed a similar act or feel their moral compass could easily allow them a future despicable act. (It was a joke!) (Gee women…

It was. The sad thing is the subsequent shunning by the group was far worse though.

Women get punished no matter what. “Why didn’t you speak up!?” “Oh you did? WHY NOT LOUDER!?”

I have been in many group situations with men, both socially and professional, where it was made clear through inaction and dismissal that my worth was not equal to theirs.

Shawkat raised a good point in this interview, which is that afterwards, she received a lot of flack for not speaking up even more.

I really hope Jessica Walter gets treated better by the cast of Archer because she deserves way better than what she gets on ad.

Intent matters if it was an accident— if the grabber never intended to grab in the first place. But he clearly meant to grab Fraser, so the reason why is a bullshit excuse.

This is the bullshit of abusers and racists: to say it’s a ‘joke’ to escape criticism of ugly assed behavior.

Even if it was a joke, I’m not sure why the victim has to attest to that. How would he know what the assaulter was thinking?

Who the hell cares if it was “intended as a joke.” How many little jerks snapped my bra, slapped my ass or honked my breast because they thought it would be funny? That they were joking and didn’t mean ill? Intention doesn’t matter when the violation of your bodily autonomy is breached. Fuck them.

“...it was intended to be taken as a joke and not as a sexual advance.”