I need dating advice!

Congrats on losing those 30 lbs! I know it's hard, but try not to let it get to you. I know when you're insecure about your looks or weight, it's easy to go to that as the reason they haven't responded... but you don't know why, and there's a ton of myriad reasons why you don't get a response.

I replied to this earlier and I could see my reply, but now I can't...what's going on?

It's a been a year since I broke up with my ex, and although I'm in a much better place than I was last year... I'm really worried I'm never going to be able to completely get over him.

Have you seen a doctor/psychiatrist? It sounds like you are depressed, and both meds and therapy may help. It's scary to take that step, but it really can help. Sometimes you have to try a few docs, a few different therapists, a few different meds.... but it DOES help (speaking as someone who has been through this…

I definitely feel the same way.... I'm in a new town too, which actually makes me feel a bit better (it's better feeling lonely and alone in a new place—at least you have a reason! it's felt worse when I've been in a place I've lived in for years, so I feel like I should have people to do things with).

I'm going to agree with everyone else there... perhaps part of the problem that as your long-term doctor, he still sees you as a child (and thus considers your dad's opinion as having more weight than your own). That said, it still is inappropriate and unprofessional. And I find it VERY concerning that he's giving you…

hmm.... Well, I'd say you probably need to keep on watching and see what you think. I think the major problem with Dean was that he realizes that he's more into her than maybe she's into him, and it makes him insecure. I think underlies a lot of his behavior, including that break-up in the first season. With the…

I moved for work as well. I do have a car, which make it easier to get to some things... I HATE driving around new places, but right now I'm trying to motivate myself to familiarize with driving around town so that I'm not perpetually late for things. Money-wise, I'm trying to conserve spending money until I get my…

I also re-joined (wasn't on long before I disabled my account) The only guys that have messaged have sent rather inane messages (text speak, wassup, etc, guys from the other end of the country), and thus far no one that I have messaged (only a few) has responded. I feel like I should message some more people, but…

I am so sorry. Don't second-guess yourself or feel guilty about it. Sometimes, it can be really hard to tell when a dog is in pain, and even harder to tell when they have serious health problems that you (and the vets) didn't realize... they are really good at masking it with a wagging tail. The important thing is…

Yeah, I've been there, and it sucks. I think sometimes the best thing to do is find a good form of distraction. Read a good book, get absorbed in a Netflix marathon, go for a run.... whatever works for you. When I'm depressed, I'm usually also lazy and unmotivated, so the netflix marathon is usually the easiest and…

I hope you get settled in and meet people soon! I also made a big move, and am feeling pretty lonely and unsettled... but at least I have my kitties to keep me company. What did you move for? I'm not very good at being extroverted/meeting new people, but I'm trying to make an effort... went to a wine-tasting in my…

hmm... I never thought so, but I might be biased because Dean was my favorite of Rory's boyfriends. Which sort of instances/episodes are you thinking of?

The grass always seems greener in someone else's yard, doesn't? I have friends that have PhDs and are living on food stamps while adjuncting... they probably think you took the smarter route in getting out.

Ugh, I wish I could have something positive to encourage you, but unless he realizes he has a problem and wants to get help... it's not going to change. My ex was an alcoholic, and for a long time I had absolutely no idea...it turns out he was lying a lot, hiding a lot, and drinking in secret. And when our…

I second the chill out and take some time off. The closer you get to comps, the more your brain starts to overload and shut down. It's a miserable experience, but you can get through it—all grad school milestones are just hoops to jump through... big, scary hoops, but doable!

Omigod, I'm so glad that there are people out there that can relate! Nearly all of my friends got married within the same few years, and then all simultaneously reproduced. I felt behind, but thought my ex and I were on the same track—and then experienced a horrible, unexpected, ridiculously painful break-up. That was…

In the past, I interned at several non-profits. I understand, given their financial constraints, why these positions were unpaid—and I learned a great deal from them that was very valuable experience. However, the other issue with internships is that they are subject to the same regulations that paid positions are,…