But where can you look? I try looking like, to the right or left of people's heads, but it's so awkward.

Thank you, but my point is that when the justice system (and your support network fails), the next thing you need to do is just extricate yourself. And I do not think it should be on this woman at ALL. I think it needs to be on administration. And sure, I think they should get his ass out of there, but it doesn't…

Yeah, I'm gonna unfix that. My statement didn't need fixing. SO I mean this nicely, but fuck off.

Um yes. And I don't know about her assailant, but mine knew all my favorite places to eat, to hang out, so he made it a point to always run into me when I left my bedroom (we were in a share house and our roommates decidedly did not want to deal with the situation). So I didn't leave my bedroom unless I had to. And…

She is still living in the same building? Jesus god. I lived in the same house as the ex who tried to kill me for three months and it fucked me up so bad I had PTSD for years. WTF, Harvard. Get her out of there!

Oh yeah, I was lucky enough to be a server before everyone was not eating gluten, but boy was it fun when someone would come in and say they were allergic to garlic. Because inevitably, I would very carefully explain to them which things contained garlic and therefore weren't safe for them, and they would order…

I would be jealous except that even though it was annoying to plan and all, we got married on top of the library, which was pretty awesome. But I'm a little jealous because mountain lodge!

This is perfect, yes! My husband's job a few weeks before the wedding was to deal with my mother. It saved my sanity.

Wha

I know- he's sort of the original Edward Cullen, right? You get a pass this time, my friend. But only because I like your style.

I'm glad you didn't face that. It was really annoying. We had to arrange everything because we could only afford to pay 1000 for our venue. They didn't even provide chairs, though we were able to choose whatever inexpensive caterer we wanted from their list provided. Thank god we found someone who was like, "Oh,…

Dude, I feel you. I also had to invite my rather large family (who I dislike). Oh, my advice to you is be really really strict about getting RSVPs back. My family, because they suck, basically stood me up. I mean, they said they weren't coming, but it was really maybe a little over a week before the wedding. GRAH.…

Oh, and I was picking up wine and beer (in separate places, because Pennsylvania), a few hours before the wedding. That was kinda funny, actually.

We cooked our rehearsal dinner because we scrimped and saved for a year for the 6000 we were able to spend on our wedding, most of which went to our venue and our food. I also tailored a bridesmaid's dress and made cupcakes instead of buying a gown and having a wedding cake because we wanted to buy a few cases of…

Now you have to go live with the Beast because you got your mother in law in trouble with your peony request!

Magical solution: Family style. Plates on every table and they serve themselves. People eat what they want (or not). Seriously.

Ha! He wanted the damned wedding. Boy oh boy did I try. And yet people would be sitting in front of me, the one who kept looking longingly at city hall and didn't change her name because it's too much bother (also I like my name), and my groom, who actually gave a crap about wedding colors, and they would talk only…

And no matter WHAT you do, people will be convinced you did it wrong and you could have done it better. And they'll never ask your husband about what he wanted for his wedding.

Aaaaaaah can't look awayyyy

Oh yargh. This whole wedding industry thing is :/