I went on a date with someone I met at a bar (gave him my #) he had a British accent in the bar & on the phone. When I met him for our picnic he told me he was an “actor” practicing for a role. He was from Long Island too. Wonder if it’s the same guy. 😜

As I was reading Alec’s comments, I heard them in Donald Trump’s voice.

Seriously, even if you aren’t fully fluent in multiple languages you can have trouble switching between them and can easily forget words, I know I did.

I agree, jinni. I’d like to add that I’m not multi lingual at all. I’m from and of southern West Virginia.  I no longer live there, but did until adulthood.  When I talk to people from back home, by phone or even by text, I drop the scrubbing of my regional accent in a way that makes my kids and husband laugh. I do it…

BFD. Code-switching. Most of us who are multilingual end up remembering words in one language and forgetting it in the other on a regular basis. The brain does not sharply delineate at all times, and certain influences can leave a more marked impact in the vocabulary of one language or another.

It’s possible she is having a complete break with reality, and it is more possible that she has exaggerated in her own mind certain aspects of the relationship. But the simplest explanation, to me, is that a manipulative asshole who is in jail for fraud saw someone he could manipulate to his own ends, i.e. receiving…

That whole Elle article was just a list of red flags and him priming her to accept being manipulated by him.

Hey Bruce—I wear glasses too and I can tell ya, they don’t mean you’re all intellectual and stuff.

Thank you! You’re so lucky to not have to deal with one. It is exhausting. 

💖all the cats, but really especially 💖💖  Intellectual Bruce.

Congratulations! I had to look up grey walling, but good for you! I hope you can keep up the boundries!

I don’t have a narcissist in my life and nor do I watch Dr Ramani.  Just wanted to say a huge CONGRATS on not letting her win!!  Big ups to you!

Y’all, I have been dealing with my super manipulative narcissist MIL and I fucking won a battle. I will win this damn war too if it kills me.

Shelter Catstravaganza!

(Last time this was done heaps of people posted about shitty gifts they’d received, not that they’d given, which is interesting too but not the same thing. Read the header, this is about personal embarrassment today, people!)

I’m not proud, but this is anonymous so...

What do you get the woman who has everything? My grandmother used to smoke a lot, so for Christmas one year I got her a carton of Kent 100s.  My parents were not pleased.

Chairlift, and specifically this album, has been my quarantine anthem for 2020. It fits well into solitary, early morning walks along quiet streets.

This is what we’ve been missing by elevating mediocre white male “creatives” in Hollywood all these years: someone who can stand with victims first while having the mental bandwidth to empathize and reflect on working with people who are harmful but also suffering themselves.

Our culture also actively discourages men from making close friendships with women. My husband’s close friends are mostly women (his closest male friend died very suddenly two years ago, we were a bit wrecked over that but nothing compared to his wife and kids, ugh) and I actively encourage him to hang out with them.…