UPDATE: I told her. She was surprised but calm. Said she would confront him calmly and ask to see his phone. She was thankful that I told her. I just really hope that this isn’t a terrible thing for her now or later...

Yeah our home country has a much better health care system in place, so if she wanted to go home it wouldn’t be too bad if we are just looking at that factor.

Yeah I’m leaning heavily towards all you’re saying here. I feel so bad for her if this is going to be a big shock. As if being pregnant isn’t hard enough, being bipolar just makes everything even harder. It was really good to hear from someone who’s both. Thank you!

Here’s my reason for not telling our mutual friend. I’ve been thinking about it: My pregnant friend might not want anyone to know about this. I want to give her the chance to be the only one, apart from me (and whomever else might have come across his profile) to know about this. She might feel humiliated. That’s how…

This, exactly, is a big reason for why I want to tell her now. It might be better in the long run. She’s so isolated here. And she feels homesick so often. Home is not perfect for her but at least she’s got a much bigger network there and the social services are so much nicer - Especially for mothers and childcare. If…

God. How shitty! I’m sorry you have to know that about those guys. It just feels very unfair to be burdened with such information. At least I just saw my friend’s husband on Tinder compared to that shit it’s tame. But she IS one of my closest friends and I feel like I have to tell her. Now or later.

Yeah screen grabbed just to be sure.

Ah I know :( Thank you.

Yeah I was surprised. It was so blatant. I know their relationship is not open but there IS a slight chance she gave him the thumbs up on having the app just as a way to pass the time without actually meeting people. I’m hanging on to that being the explanation here. Hoping, hoping...

OK here’s the thing I am also bipolar. My own mental health is hanging on by a thread and I struggle to pay the rent each month. I can’t have a whole game plan there for her. I can be there as best I can as a friend who loves her but I can only provide so much help. I’ll do my absolute, very best, but this is not a…

Oh my god I just don’t know. I don’t want her to feel any more isolated, she’s isolated enough as it is, without all this shit.

I know it’s like, oh even the GOOD ones are shitty >:(

Yeah I just don’t know. She only really has me and him here (we’re from the same country in Europe and are living in NYC). We had a third in our little group of friends but she just moved back home. I could ask her what to do, she’s quite a bit older than my friend and I and might be able to share some insight.

Guys. Please help. The shittiest thing just happened: I found a close friend’s husband on Tinder. I need your feedback on what to do. I’m really torn. Reasons for telling her: We’re among each other’s closest friends, I’d want to know, I don’t want to carry this big secret around, she deserves to know. Reasons for not…

I’m a Scandinavian and in Northern Europe it’s been common for over a century to do rooms in all white so it’s beyond a trend for us. I’ve lived in the US for almost a decade but I still gravitate towards the all-white. It looks clean, makes any color pop and never goes out of fashion in my mind. I will never get the…

Yeah I thought that was a bit disappointing and hard to believe. They spent almost no time building her story and all we know about her goals and desires this season, really, is to get her baby back. I would have liked to see that gun in the hands of one of the characters whose storyline we focused on this season.

Yep, yep and yep.

Preach, friend.

As a children’s educator I can vouch that not all of us think this way and that I think this appalling. I can understand being very frustrated by certain students, and especially the parents, but this is just plain sad.

I think it’s even weirder how long he’s been with his beard.