I wasn't writing about what other people think about Depp's behavior or Heard's responsibility. I was just speculating on why *Heard* might feel responsible and that it reflected on her. That's a common feeling among partners and families of people with substance abuse problems, no matter what stage of addiction or…

Here's some projection for you: A lot of partners of alcoholics eventually find themselves in the role of the "responsible one". The one who makes the appointments and remembers the dates and ensures that the couple makes it to events dressed and on time. When a very public display happens, the "responsible one" will…

Unfortunately, the question of how to legally define a "hate group" will trip you up every time. Plenty of organizations have antagonistic relationships with other organizations or groups, but have a mission aside from that antagonism that is Constitutionally protected.

Most English taught overseas is British English. Partly it is a relic of the British Empire; the original impetus to study English was because of the Empire, not to talk to Americans. Even if taught by an American English speaker, the texts and writing exercises are often British spellings and usages.

So let me see if I can follow the comedic process here: He sees a black lady on TV and thinks it would be funny to create a fantasy situation in which he is her white owner and she is his chattel slave, whom he finds sexually gratifying in some way (probably a rapey way) And to make it a "happy" fantasy, AFTER he is…

Yup.

Do you think the existence of cell phones has made horror/suspense plotting more difficult tho? I find modern horror movies have to go to *ridiculous* lengths to make cell phones useless, otherwise the characters would just call for help/call and warn the person in danger/check their Google maps/etc. Cell phones…

Wooooow, that's *ridiculous*. Living well is the best revenge and all that, I hope?

"They pointed out, too, that the law doesn't say abortion and contraception can't be taught, only that adoption has to be promoted as the best option."

Is this real life?

I dunno if that's a fail on your part. In a better world, your pointing out that the parish priest was favoring the boys could have made someone in authority think, "Wait, something's not right there..." and look into it earlier.

To me , it was more that he didn't think there was any reason for any one to be that upset. He was instrumental, due to his poor oversight, in creating this situation: a hard-working, inspired female student is passed over for a lazy, under-achieving male, and is surprised that anyone would be angry about it. If he…

I vividly remember the male teacher's dismay upon discovering the wreck of the science project. He says something like, "There was real *hate* there". And I just couldn't even with him. You completely forget to do *your job* by not overseeing a precocious, over-achieving female student's project and fail to advise her…

I actually read this book while a teenager, and I remember also thinking, "Damn, these guys are all assholes who had it coming. Good for those girls!" The only revenge-y bit that bothered me was when the club ruined the male science student's project cause the female student got disqualified (but not because she's a…

Of course the approaches are different. My point was just that Jim Sterling has said very similar things to Anita Sarkeesian vis a vis women, feminism, representation, and video games without an entire twitter mob talking about shutting him up or "destroying" him. And I've heard all the arguments about Anita's…

A male spokesman for feminism in video games, hmmm? Just today I was watching the Jimquisition videos that cover a lot of the same territory as Tropes vs. Women, and noted that they were a year old and I hadn't even seen them before. Because Jim Sterling didn't get a hate mob screaming that he's single-handedly…

I threw my turkey leg out half eaten and I don't feel bad about it. I also didn't quite finish my Scotch Egg, but it was soo worth it. You missed out by not trying the Apple Dumpling. It came with ice cream! Also, going in I thought I had a reasonable amount of cleavage, but I quickly discovered how bush league I was.

I have no idea how much a 1 carat diamond costs. I don't know how much "a carat" is. I only own one diamond ring, the one my husband gave me. I don't know how many carats it is.

Wait, you *know* how much your friends' engagement rings cost? I... wait... how... how would that even come up? Like, "Here's the ring! We're engaged!" "How much did he spend?" Is it like that? And people *give you shit* about it? I just... what? I always make a point of showing off my ring (I've only had it for 8…

I guess I was a Cool Girl type in high school. I think partly this kind of identity is a rejection of what girls are taught is "proper" womanly behavior. Most of my friends were boys, and I didn't "get" make-up, hairstyling, and other "girly" things. For me, the eccentric, androgynous style I adopted was easier than…