You get so much further with an attitude of, ‘here’s the problem, how can it be fixed?’ Also as a non-native speaker of a rather difficult language I have to communicate in to get things done, if there is a screwup of some sort I tend to start by assuming I may have said something wrong or misunderstood something, and…

In France they either proposed or just passed a law to the effect that children can sue their parents for breach of privacy for just this.

That second one is Nopetopus 2.0

Possibly one of the worst places on earth for a black woman to try to date. Even the lightskinned sistas of my acquaintance were so over the colorstruck mentality.

Go to The Salad Bowl for that, there is a post.

“Besties before testes.” — Awkward Black Girl

Istanbul is not the best place to get dogs. Cats, however, are plentiful and mostly free.

These are dealbreakers how, exactly?

I call it the disengagement ring.

My stash was known as the F-U Fund, but a friend suggested the more uplifting “Freedom Fund.”

Five-lira bargain bin, with tags cut out, except it looks like the English is better on these. Check for holes and other defects before you pay b/c nonreturnable.

I have a massive crush of many years’ standing on my dentist. If he weren’t really good at what he does, though, I wouldn’t find him as attractive. He also doesn’t try to upsell me unnecessary cosmetic procedures, which I hate. I considered hitting on him but decided there was no non-creepy way to go about it and kind…

I live (alone) in a place where people often leave shoes at the door, and I made a point of finding a decoy pair of used men’s shoes to make delivery or utilities men or whoever think there is a male presence here. That might work in other places as well.

I recently had one of those expressing an interest; even though I had no prior experience with the genre, as a black woman I figured I’d better be wary. This proved to be the best course of action. Glad you survived and found better.

This used to happen to me ALL the time when I was in high school. I was very surprised to find myself still in bed.

Seksi!

До свидания! извини что так поздно пришла, но я на другой стороны мира нахожусь. Всего хорошего.

Wow, I feel old — you would think y’all are talking about his father, who I seem to remember is still active but not very.

The word is actually şehitler, pronounced ‘sheh-heet-ler’ and it is just the plural of şehit and the ‘martyrs’ part of the chant.

Feeling that way just makes me question what people accept and define as “love.” Often it is tied up in things like control, codependency, status-seeking, and a whole lot of other stuff, to the point where it’s basically a compliment if certain people don’t or can’t “love” you.