Feeling that way just makes me question what people accept and define as “love.” Often it is tied up in things like control, codependency, status-seeking, and a whole lot of other stuff, to the point where it’s basically a compliment if certain people don’t or can’t “love” you.

For real though. I am very afraid sometimes of finding someone who’s so perfectly wrong for me that we can’t stay away from each other. It seems statistically more likely than finding someone right.

I went to a wedding once where the food served was all vegetarian. It was so long ago that I don’t remember exactly what there was, but it was all so good I also don’t remember hearing anybody complain about it.

I think cats bite when they’re getting amorous, which is doubtless not sexy if you weren’t into it from the get-go.

He may start going after someone else’s feet. What then?

Even your relationship with the cat may change. What do you think about that?

To the extent that I’m even bothering anymore, I’m looking for compatibility. Focusing on looks and types can seriously get in the way of really seeing whether someone is worth your time. At the same time, I don’t seem to be anyone’s preferred type, so that’s another reason I try to concentrate on what they’ve got…

“World” competition? Not seeing a lot of diversity here, which is a shame.

First-semester freshman rite of passage. Appreciate him for who he is, and try not to stress about what you might want him to be.

I know, the more I read, the more EFL abroad it started to sound.

You call that a dress?

Scary.

Where I live, the culture is kind of repressed (not as repressed as, say, Saudi Arabia, but more so than the US) and lonely/randy young men will either text at random or keep calling if they hear a female voice on a wrong number in a deliberate attempt to make a connection. I am sure the success rate is low for this…

I would star this, but it’s already got 69 stars and that’s perfect.

It can be done, but I leave it to others. I have a number of unsuitable suitors of a comparable age difference, and I refuse them. If I met one who knew how to deal with a grown-azz woman, though, I could reconsider that stance.

The cat unlocked the cupboard?

OK, that gives me a little bit more idea. If you like Brooklyn, Cihangir IMO has a similar vibe, as well as a few hotels and other accommodations. Lots of funky cafes, restaurants and boutiques, but may be a bit dodgy at night (I heard stories recently) because it’s so popular with foreigners. Transport not as…

I am writing from there now. I don’t know your tastes, of course, so I am hesitant to recommend anything specific in terms of food or accommodation. “Beauty” of course is also relative. Sultanahmet is the safest bet for services, historic preservation and access to transportation, though other areas are also good.…

Was it a joke or some kind of R&D?

Wellingtons, galoshes, whatever you’ve got, you might need them.