tell me about, so much this!! I still have her voice in the back of my head...but it gets quieter every day I'm away from her craziness. It's nice to know there are other "survivors" out there.

Oh, they hate to be called out on their self-centredness and selfishness. With my NPD person I quoted her verbatim some insanely selfish statements she'd made in certain contexts and (with those she couldn't deny) she simply refused to process why they were so awful, hurtful and inappropriate.

I imagine it isn't discussed a lot because people with NPD don't feel they have a disorder, so they don't see a psychologist or psychiatrist. My therapist told me that if she ever sees a narcissist for a session (rarely), they almost never come back again, and if they do, it's no more than like 2 more sessions.

I was…

I've had to deal for decades with a family member who, amongst other personality flaws, likely has NPD (probably the least diagnosed disorder out there given how wonderful they think they are). After a row that challenged her self-perception I surprised her with a brutally honest conversation about why I would be…

Ugh, I was in a LTR with someone like this for four fucking years of hell. If I insisted on something, I was a stubborn child. If I went along with whatever my SO wanted, I was a spineless piece of shit. There's no way forward with people like that. After a while, I just shut down. I'm still digging my way out of the…

I think the telling bit is where he tells her that when he tries to lead, she doesn't follow. She is the alpha she's been looking for all along.

I think there's a bit of a miscommunication going on though- she only "has to" make decisions because she hates every decision he makes, and feels she must control his. When men do this, it's controlling/abusive, and it sounds like she's verging on that line herself.

You'll have to wait two weeks. The Ministry of Culture's Cultural Construction Advisory Council is currently engaged.

Ugh, ghosting. My most recent....1st date: a brief drink turns into a 6 hour dinner and conversation. We have a lot in common and I start to feel the chemistry. We have a couple of long phone conversations mid week followed by 2nd date: dinner with lots of hand holding, eye gazing. He kisses me under a full moon. …

I can totally see this. Also most people who meet in real life meet through friends or in the workplace. I think it's easier to hold a relationship together when there are existing bonds already in place. I'm a single and online dating can suck, but I do know enough people who have ended up in loving relationships to…

Forgive me, but those kind of guys can rot in hell. I didn't have the exact same situation... I and a guy friend started hooking up, and through a series of direct conversations he *told me* he wasn't looking for anything serious. (Direct quote: "I am not looking for any expectations or commitments.") I eventually…

I have a feeling the drugs, alcohol and mental instability have way more to do with the kids not wanting to spend the night at his house. That may be why his girlfriend broke off the engagement, too. Never take the word of a known liar.

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I'm guessing girlfriend got bored with him and moved on. Real life removes the shine off the forbidden fruit. Now he is blaming his ex wife cause he is just a basic middle aged white man with nothing to offer.

I remember when her memoirs came out and I was like, blah, black ballerina is awesome but who can write memoirs at like 25 and have it be great?

Doesn't really qualify as Asleep Drunk, but here goes: One time, I committed the ultimate sin of falling asleep while receiving oral. (I know! But I was sooooo sleepy! I'd been on this long bike ride and I was half asleep when we started messing around.) Anyway, I started having a dream about McDonald's while he was…

My BSC (Blood Sleep Content) is usually at fatal levels.

I thought confusion arousal is what you feel upon meeting a physically attractive Republican.

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I posted over on Dirt Bag that I'm pretty sure this was used to design her dress: