"the product of coddled men who were allowed to believe, without question, that their reasoning trumped any sense of empathy or ethics."

Real talk: I was raped at this school, many years ago now. I dropped out not long afterward. I never once considered reporting it - the culture of victim-blaming was that high. People stereotype the U of C as a nerdy, virgin-filled school, and the nerd part definitely has a bit of truth. But the frats there are…

And my therapist. I still feel sad and angry about it, but it doesn't grip me like it did.

Oh no! Apparently when I got out of the grey, the context of WHY I was sharing my story was lost. I mentioned my experience in response to another commenter who said they expected someone to be horrified and disgusted if falsely accused, because that was precisely how *I* responded. Sadly, I can't edit it now to add…

No, you're right and I completely agree with you on that count as well. I was a bit reticent about voicing that opinion here, but I also find it strange how all of this was presented by Dylan and her mother. The award that was given to Woody Allen was for his body of work, and while Diane Keaton may have waxed poetic…

The difference is the direct questioning to the audience and how the internet inherently works differently on a social mentality than if we just read it in the press. Mia, as far as I know, never made and open letter to the public to believe her. It would've looked suspicious and desperate. Dylan can do it because…

Reading the third letter feels like a huge load has been lifted off my chest. The same exact thing happened to me and I've felt the same way over and over again but I know I can't go back, nor do I want to. Nice column, really feels good to read someone else's words that truly could've been my own.

LW#3: My soon-to-be-ex-husband actually left me in October for one of his coworkers, who was also one of my closest friends. Another friend & I still miss her. We were talking about how for my birthday dinner in January, it felt like someone was missing. I know it seems silly in the face of everything going on, but…

BoxMeowBox, I do have second thoughts. I'm trying to say (and it's hard to express true ambivalence ... unambivalently) that I really don't know what to believe in this case. Since you can't actually have two conflicting opinions at exactly the same moment, I go back and forth depending on each thing I read. When I'm…

"I'm very comfortable in my decision to cut my ex friend out of my life (she betrayed me in a pretty terrible way and then got upset that I was hurt and angry over said betrayal), but I don't know how to get all the way over it."

I know this is unpopular, but I don't think he did it.

The last letter is so relevant to me. I cut out a best friend from my life in December. She only talked to me when it was convenient for her, but I'd be lucky to hear back from her if I got into contact with her. She always made plans with me, but would never follow through with them for whatever reason. If it weren't…

Here comes the internet lynch mob! Why the Farrows chose to hold court in the media instead of the court room (where we could actually get down to the facts and get a verdict) is suspicious. This is a very serious accusation for them to be depending on the opinions of readers at rag magazines to judge this 'case'. …

I'm surprised (but probably shouldn't be) at the unanimity here. I'm also sure my disagreement will end up in the gray wasteland. Still. Mark, your argument is fundamentally flawed and you and the readers here should know better.

i had someone lie to me about being molested once, and i first became suspicious of it in the exact same way: the name of the alleged molester shared the name of an author we were both obsessed with & reading at the time. the details were almost entirely lifted from a scene in a book. when i confronted the person with…

It's definitely true that it's far worse for women, who unlike men rarely have the benefit of meaty comedy or "character work" available (and even that pales to how racist defs of beauty are used against actresses of color) but I have to say that looks-based casting is so insidious it even affects men, so i doubt it's…

You know, sometimes I feel weird about this, but I really don't like hearing about other people's sex lives. Not in a judgey way, but like, I don't go into graphic detail about my life and I don't want my friends to go into graphic detail about theirs. Really, we're all grownups, we're all doing it, it's not that big…

One thing to keep in mind is that there are two sides of the coin. While most of the discussion around issues like this focus on the (absolutely valid and very important) question of how girls perform/act. I don't mean to be all "what about teh menz" , but I believe that segregating boys and girls in formative years…

I was actually assigned a classroom in Somerset Middle School during the early stages of my teacher training. I wasn't there long enough to be able to give any authoritative observations about the school itself, but I lived in that area of Wisconsin for about five years and I know what the community is like. It's…

Is not date till man say is date!