I'm glad you say this about people who perform these elaborate gestures - I have the same feeling. There's something kind of fake about it? Trying too hard? The wedding is maybe more about the show than their actual relationship? Just getting that impression, and from the behavior I've seen in some people in my…

Your mom sounds awesome ;)

Is that Marianne Faithful?

I should add too that this friend still bitches about one guy that she dumped when we graduated from college, now 10 years on. She still goes on and on about how lame he is (even though he's a super nice, smart guy who's gone on to do amazing things and we all kind of love him now). It's like she just can't get let…

My issue with this situation is: at what point is it actually your friend who is being kind of the shitty one for feeling all of this negativity about the relationship but not doing anything about it?

This is so interesting, and something I have definitely noticed in dating. I'm a little insecure about it, and it's become somewhat of an indicator for me in some instances. I think I'm kind of a slow walker sometimes, and I have this perception (rightly or wrongly) that if a guy I'm seeing won't slow down to walk…

I think, as a woman who has worked in the film industry, it is also incredibly hard to be nurturing to a ton of people all the time in what can be a really brutal work environment.

I think, as a woman who has worked in the film industry, it is also incredibly hard to be nurturing to a ton of people all the time in what can be a really brutal work environment.

I'm sorry but you don't know shit about me. I have a ton of women friends, I just choose to be friends with women who are secure in themselves and don't project their jealousy to trash other people unnecessarily. Women can be ugly, manipulative pricks in just the same way men can. Get a life.

Here's the other thing that I've come to learn - just because someone has been in a lot of relationships, or has a lot of experience, doesn't mean they have been GOOD relationships. In fact, maybe quite the opposite, if they can't seem to settle down, you know? People who are open to the possibility of goodness have…

Try not to feel that way — you're not alone! In having been single for a very long time now myself, one of the plusses that I see in myself is that I'm a calm person, self-sufficient person who hasn't been involved in a lot of drama for a long time. It's almost like having a clean slate. The people who I've met…

Do you think that a part of her was actually maybe happy to hold a high status without having to serve on a ship? And is that an ok feeling for a feminist to have in still aspiring to have a high ranking career? That's what I wonder. I don't necessarily agree with this inclination, but I think sometimes when a…

This. I have gone to work in a field that is male dominated, and so socially, I end up befriending and hanging out with a lot of them too. I have old female friends who have tried to make me feel bad for having these relationships, and I hate saying this, but I think it's because they're jealous. But the fact is,…

My first job out of film school was working for a female independent filmmaker. She was a quite accomplished woman, professionally, but she was miserable. She had gotten a divorce from her husband, which she talked about ALL THE TIME as if it had happened the month before I started working for her (even though I…

Yeah, I'm hoping so ;). And I agree, that shit is terrifying. And if you think it through to how it could have happened — how the person got your photos , if it's someone you know ( or someone connected to someone you know)....arghhh, just terrifying!

This didn't happen to me, but I discovered it on behalf of a friend. I moved to a new city a while ago, and met this totally adorable guy randomly, and kind of became friends with him because we work in the same field I found out he was single because I found his profile on OkCupid and was excited because I thought…

I really want to hear about the commune version of middle school!

Wow. That's sad, not to mention exhausting! To have to fake an accent the entire time he was spending time with your friend? He must have realized he couldn't keep up the charade forever - but the question is, why not just admit he was fooling in the first place? So unneccessary!

Erin, maybe the guy you were seeing meant he was colorblind euphamistically, to demonstrate his feelings about his lack of color coordination? Maybe?