My answer to situations like this is - yes, but how do you think they would be behaving if pictures and evidence hadn't come out to what they were doing. They wouldn't be stopping, and apologizing, they would probably continue right on with their shitty behavior.

That's ok, I usually only stalk myself anyways.

I agree with this assessment. I also saw the movie, and what disappointed me about it was still this sense that despite the fact of a "gender role reversal" in the film with male strippers performing instead of females, was that it still seemed to present the male strippers in control of the action.

If this were a series shot by Terry Richardson featuring Paz de la Huerta fully clothed in a sweat suit and a snuggie, THEN i would be amazed.

I don't know - when you've been with someone as heinous as Kim Kardashian, I'm pretty sure that after it's over you want the world to know how truly awful she is. Not that the world hasn't already figured it out - but I kind of can't blame the guy, even if it was his mistake.

I have wondered about this. I started taking something called Pristique last year for anxiety, and it has mostly helped a lot, but I often still have a hard time focusing, which makes me think ADHD. I have considered trying to take adderall, but I'm kind of scared of the heartbeat/attitude effects that I've read…

I've also had this happen a few times - unfortunately it seems to be the M.O. of a lot of guys these days, to just flat out disappear without any warning when they're too chicken to just say they want out - and it's very confusing and painful (and has the effect of making YOU feel like the crazy one.).

This reminds me of a recent incident in my love life. I slept with a guy who I was super attracted to. It was awesome, but unfortunately he didn't want a relationship (he had just gotten out of something long term). He said he wanted to be friends but after months and months of me sending him friendly emails and…

Agreed. I know a girl who used to take great pleasure in "stringing guys along" (as vague as what that can mean), guys who were perfectly fine and normal, and would have taken a hint if she ever bothered to actually articulate it, but she enjoys the power it gives her to have a guys' undying attention (even if she…

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You are very right, and I totally agree with you. And like I say, I also met a lot of wonderful, perfectly friendly people as well. I was just very disturbed that the kinds of attitudes that this man was espousing were ones that could be so visibly and unquestioningly present in such a high level in the tribe. I'm…

I'm a white woman who spent some time doing research for a film project on a reservation last year, and I am not surprised at all by this report. In my attempt to interview a male within the Tribe's administration on totally unrelated material, I was directly propositioned for sex, and forced to listen to this man…

Megan represents for me what happens when a woman tries to mold herself into what a guy wants in order to win him. When they started their relationship, she propped Don up as a mentor/father figure in order "to be like [him]" - she played that she wanted to get better in advertising, and because she is an actress,…

Yes. All you say is true. You are very wise :) It's hard to remember all of these things sometimes. Thanks - you seem like someone I would love to have in my circle of friends!

But if that's true then - doesn't that mean it's a lie when guys say they're tired of having to do all the work to get a girl interested in them, and that they're happy when women do the asking? It's a total double standard - you want us to take the initiative in a relationship, but when we do, we also become…

Thanks for the advice. I have thought as much - I've had a little experience myself already. It just sucks because it was so great, and had so much potential, that I could see.

Oops, I mean the girl should send him a text? Crap.

Really? So I should send him a text about MC Hammer? Like, "Do you like MC Hammer?" or something like "I wanna Hammer Dance with you." You really think he'll understand the subtext in that?

Sounds like he was saying he wanted the boyfriend out of the way and in a dangerous job. Which is pretty gross.

Ok, now reverse this question for the girl. What if you're a girl, who's met and slept with a guy, and things went well, but have cooled off. You want to text him to let him know you're still interested - what do you say, without coming across as desperate or stalkerish?