Thanks for putting that more eloquently than I would

It comes from everyone refusing to accept bi identity, and also from an almost pathological need to DEFINE people.

Can we?!!!!

I am conflicted. While I think Amandla is respectful here, I am also really aware that my sexuality is still largely considered either titillating or en route to something else. The term “stepping stone” is pretty bad, and I would appreciate that language disappearing

Thank you. Yeah. I don’t appreciate my identity being considered a “stepping stone” on the way to something else.

This. It is really unprofessional to reach out for an interview with comments like that. I don’t blame the Atlantic for refusing to submit to an interview if all they had to go on was, “what is your fucking deal” etc.

Children going through puberty can be given medication that delays puberty, rather than transitioning.

Agreed. Those emails were completely unprofessional. There are good ways to fight, and I’m convinced there is a good story here. Too bad a journalist thinks it’s acceptable to speak like that in pursuit of a story.

Wasnt that his advice though? As long as no other shoes drop, let the texts go. If she’s doing other stuff and also hiding it, that changes the equation.

Is that me? Me from five years in the future? I too lament a youth spent in university slash smoking pot, rather than building an evil empire of fraud.

We’re succubi!

Hells to the yes. We are not going to sit here and let your crazy bullshit drag us down with you.

I am very supportive of this! I think the advice to adopt an older dog is bang on - you know their personality and temperament from jump, and they are not going to have the same destructive energy as a younger pup. Our doggo has definitely calmed the fuck down, and its waaaay easier, even if he is still a pestersome…

Ugh that is basically where we are at, and why it happened in the first place. I am ready to move back, but not really into long distance for a variety of reasons. The set up right now is NOT working for me, but I can’t figure a way out that isn’t a) leaving him and being unhappy and regerts or b) staying and being…

I have moved a lot - its more that I am not into long distance for a variety of reasons, and travelling a lot isn’t great for my mental health. Its not permanent down here, but it could be another five years, and I just don’t know if I want to feel like I missed out on the rest of my 30s.

I’m only partly moved, but the back and forth is getting to be too much. I can’t get settled anywhere and still feel like I’m missing out on things back home :(

Thank you. We are working through that stuff, and initially it was really bad. We have such a nice little life down here, and I feel very ungrateful. I think the worst bit is, he totally knows how hard this is for me and feels really guilty :(

Oh lady that is the problem! I do two weeks in my home, and two weeks in the bad place with him.

Gurl. I’ve been seriously thinking about this issue - not this episode - as I sift through some poor choices a la Carrie moving to a city she didn’t love for a man she didn’t really... Ugh.

Kelly, you’re totally right!