No "shoulds"! :) I think it's great that you loved your dress. There are so many, it's so overwhelming, and there are too many people who will tell you what you "should" do.

I get what you're saying, but there is no way a bride isn't involved in choosing the dress and typically everyone involved goes to try it on together. They also recommend ordering at the same time so it's in the same dye lot. So yeah, maybe the dress was ordered before the bride knew what was going on, but it's a lot…

I actually replaced someone who was a bridesmaid. She didn't like the dress that was chosen. She said she thought it would be better for their friendship if she wasn't in the wedding and instead it ended the friendship. The bride asked me to participate and if I minded that the dress was already chosen, and I just…

I am so sorry that you have such a terrible sister. Good for you for not going to the wedding. I hope she lives to regret her selfishness and immaturity.

Why should he have to get approval to have his close friend be in the wedding? It's his wedding, too, and I doubt she asked for his approval of her other bridesmaids. Also, it's doubtful she bought the dress in a vacuum - if it's a bridesmaids dress for that wedding, then she was included in everything until the…

I think you are entirely correct. I've been to one very family-friendly wedding, where a tea party with the bride was built into the "family reunion" style event, and some others where kids were welcome but it was a bad idea. I say it was a bad idea because the kids were clearly overwhelmed by everything going on at…

I agree re: divorce and cheating, but really we have no idea whether it was cheating or not. I've been amazed to discover how many people I know have open marriages.

Or maybe her husband did by expecting to be treated like the "king of the castle" instead of an equal partner, and failing to be a supportive spouse.

Wow, that's really horrible. I read an interview where she talks about trying to make her husband feel like the king of the castle and staying the same girl he met 20 years ago, things along those lines, which to me just read like a recipe for disaster. I am sad for her based on what you said and the speculative…

You are quite welcome! I hope the info was helpful!

Generally no. Colleges have a due process obligation, and public schools have less leeway to do what they want than private colleges do, but usually they are just required to have a policy and procedure and to follow it consistently. In my overall work experience, at colleges and other places, people are not often…

The burden of proof for a code of conduct violation, including sexual misconduct violations, cannot be greater than a preponderance of the evidence (i.e., more likely than not), which is what the burden is for civil lawsuits. Many schools would like (and some have done) clear and convincing evidence, which is a…

While I do not know as many details as you do about this specific matter, I know enough about the law to dispute your last sentence. A university is under a legal obligation to launch an investigation when they learn of a possible Title IX violation, regardless of how it learned of the potential violation.

That's awesome! I'd love to see her in a live performance of basically anything, but I know she got rave reviews for that.

Yes exactly! I agree, it's depressing. I was kind of excited to scroll down and keep the smile on my face a little longer, expecting the usual just like you, but it was like a bucket of cold water being splashed with the Debbie Downer music playing in the background.

Bunch of Scrooges commenting so far, it seems. This made me laugh; thank you for sharing.

One of the greatest moments! She is the best ever.

It was my favorite show when I was a kid. Clair Huxtable is a big reason why I became such a passionate feminist at so young an age, and she was my first inspiration for becoming a lawyer. I'm sure the show is dated now and not as funny as I thought it was when I was 6, but it makes me a little sad that if I wanted…

Ehhh, Sony's emails show there are some pretty racist producers there, regardless of what Crazy Al has to say...

Yes, and so is Idris Elba. I was surprised, too, since I knew him first from The Wire.