Same for some close friends/family! And the vendors basically refused to deal with anyone except the bride, despite the fact that the grooms were more into having an actual wedding and tasks involving vendors had been divided between the couple. It was so irritating!

I know a lot of sensible women who didn't plan their weddings in advance and all of them were asked if they had set a date and chosen a venue almost immediately after getting engaged. It's a reflection of the culture we live in, not the women getting engaged.

This has always been exactly my line of thinking. However, now that I'm in my early 30's and have been to approximately one million weddings, I do have some solid ideas of what I do and do not like. So, I do have a secret Pinterest board for when the time does come, though I definitely do not have it all planned out.…

Why on earth would you be so dismissive of children who are being honest in their appreciation for you? It's self-serving if you ask them to do it, but it's respecting them if you let them write how they feel instead of telling them how to feel. It's normal for kids to be attached to their teachers and be thankful…

As someone who watches, I feel like there's a bit of a difference between guests and performers. It's very obvious that a performer is there to promote whatever; they do a song or a standup routine and that's it. Guests are promoting projects as well, of course, but they have a platform to talk about whatever they…

I think you completely nailed it re: people's judgment and fear of it happening to themselves.

Oh no I know! I didn't mean to imply otherwise, sorry. I even agree that it's illogical - I really just meant his failure to sue gave me pause, and then went on about why. Sorry!

YES. Cancel your weekend plans and get started. It's amazing.

Perhaps, but doesn't it raise a red flag? People can argue he doesn't need the money so why would he bother, but the fact that he's having projects canceled left and right means that he could potentially have the grounds to sue and recover damages if people are lying about it because what's being said about him is…

I am not married and I do not have children, but the daycare vs working debate always makes me a little uneasy. In the big picture, doesn't it make sense to keep the job and the career momentum going? For various reasons, I am sensitive to the concept of relying only on yourself, but even if couples stay together…

That sounds horrible. Can you take the job and pay someone to do 15 hours of work around the house/drop off laundry or something??? My heart goes out to you.

I thank God (or whomever) that I went to a school that did not have Greek life, because I was so naive about it all. I am sure that sexual assault happened on that campus because it wasn't in a magical fairyland, and on rare occasions it was reported and I know for a fact that campus police took it seriously, but the…

I felt similarly about that part of it. I wouldn't really say that they are adults - I think that people of that age are learning how to become adults, and that part of student services divisions on college campuses is to help them develop into successfully functioning adults. I agree that hand-holding is excessive…

Total prude here (very egalitarian about it, at least). I felt pretty alone reading the comments until I saw yours. Excellent "Clueless" reference; two very enthusiastic thumbs up.

Maybe. He might just be a controlling jerk, though. Everything about this is controlling, except for the part about the cat.

When I saw your comment I naturally went back and played it a few times. It looks like she's wearing a white T with dark pants and white sneakers (as she's climbing off the bartender's lap), to me... but, I could be wrong. In addition to slightly pathetic for viewing several times.

You managed to get that from 4 sentences? You don't know me at all, and thank God for that. Any anger I'm expressing is specifically directed at you, because you are inspiring it. As for what I'm writing, it's a law article, and it was commissioned because of my expertise. You really should quit snarking on people…

I've done significant research on fraternities and sexual assault, have you? I am in the middle of writing an article for publication on this very subject. The chances that they used a rape drug for everyone to simply have a good time are not high. Speculate all you want about it, debate all you want about it, but…

Has it occurred to you that perhaps the bowl was spiked so that a lot of them could "score"?