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And therein lies the difference.
This this this this this fucking this. It's the exact same behavior. Jesus, we even have a term for it, when men do it to us: "But what about the menz?!" It's privileged, derailing bullshit, and we can totally see that when it's used against us, but when faced with people we have privilege over, we do the same damned…
"A man who entered a feminist space, and decided to question patriarchy would be treated as troll, but when it effects their ability to negotiate their privilege, suddenly we have to debate."
I agree that we need more class-based affirmative action - but in addition to, not instead of, race-based affirmative action. Until people of color are no longer impacted by institutional disadvantages, this is a necessary system.
Yeah, no. That is not how good shock comedy works, at all. That is how lazy and poorly-written comedy works, because it appeals to the lowest-common denominator. If your jokes maintain the status quo, they are not ground-breaking, or fresh, or daring. You are basically doing the comedic equivalent of laughing at…
I could definitely see some complaints from black women who often feel that American society tells upwardly mobile black men that dating/marrying white women is a substantial upgrade over doing so with a black women.
My white wife will be giving birth to our interracial baby. Wait until the racists hear about the interracial lesbian couple with the biracial baby! S/he is gonna be amazing and we're gonna be an amazing family. These people are growing to be more and more irrelevant. You can tell that by the fact that corporations…
Knowing how to live alone and be alone at 26 is an amazing talent. Just because it's not always a happy place to be doesn't mean that it's not an important thing to do. And being able to be a strong, independent person who is unwilling to compromise for bullshit because they know they're okay alone means that when…
Yes - I'll never be out-right rude. I'll get more demanding if it's really just terrible service (although, people need to learn to recognize who is at fault for particular problems - your meat being undercooked doesn't = fuck over the server). I'll never EVER treat them like shit.
Loving yourself unconditionally doesn't mean giving yourself permission to be an asshole and stop trying to achieve anything... Loving yourself gives you permission to genuinely care about how you are treated by others and stand up for yourself if mistreated, to go after what you want to achieve and still love…
I think the traits you chose are pretty problematic, but I agree with the basic sentiment.
Yeah, that's where I'm at with the baby in a bar issue as well. There's a gray area where it's not even always obvious whether a place is a restaurant or a bar with a fairly extensive menu.
I think if you're in the minority, you either have to disinvite yourself or just suck it up, unfortunately. Asking your friends to exclude her will likely only result in drama directed at you. At least in a large group setting, you can pretty much avoid her, and then you can just do the occasional one on ones with…
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With the jealousy thing, which sucks, it also helps to ask yourself if you really want what they have or just the fulfillment they get from it. Usually the answer is "No, I don't want to move to Vegas because I like small towns, I don't want to be an author because I suck at writing, I don't want to own my own…
In response to the last question...just remember that there will always be someone smarter, thinner, prettier, with better luck, a nicer place, all that shit. I think it's awesome that you know so many accomplished people, so use it in your favor, as Sara so wisely suggests. Think about what makes you happy and what…
Cherry? Yick! You can have them. I love me some cinnamon sugar ones though. Totally delicious.