Ah come on now. Not cool. I’m white and that experience was terrifying. If I went through the same thing and ALSO felt like the doctor had some issue with my race on top of everything? Holy hell.

Imagine my surprise that someone with a screenname like “THE DARK ONE” spends all his time complaining about “virtue signaling.”

The same thing happened to me. I was on the subway on my way to work, I had a severe pain in my lower back and blacked out briefly. Luckily, this happened as the train was approaching Columbus Circle. I got off and staggered to the nearest hospital.

I have long been diagnosed with a serious mental health issue and pass for vaguely white most of the time. The treatment of mentally ill people is horrific. I’ve been treated poorly. But in my 25 years dealing with healthcare providers, I know I have not been treated nearly as poorly other people of color. I have seen…

I absolutely think it is race-based, I just know it isn’t *only* race-based. Been there myself, and it was definitely class-based, as well as female-based. After two hours of being mistreated and insulted by the (black, female) nurses, a white male doctor came in and sighed and asked me if he’d write me a prescription…

Severe pain in the extremities can be an ER situation. It could have been a Blood Clot (DVT), especially if he is overweight. DVTs are misdiagnosed at a high rate and can result in death. It is well studied and documented that people of color receive poor health care because of health care providers’ concious and…

I personally know people who have been denied mental health care because they were part of a minority group. I’ll stop “making it about race” when those health care workers do.

That’s a good policy. Even good, skilled, conscientious doctors can make mistakes. They’re human. But they are, and should be, held to a much higher standard. Not just in how they provide medical treatment, but in their interpersonal conduct with patients. Sick people coming to you for treatment are vulnerable, and…

Just wanted to say a disclaimer: you do you and what works for you, but I’d recommend scoping out some resources that may (or may not) help, if you haven’t already. Seems like you have a good hold on it, but the reason I don’t keep guns in my house is because - even with my very mild mental challenges - one bad night…

You going to tell us what hospital this was, so everyone can avoid it?

Long story short, I wasn’t dressed nice and they thought I had been drinking or a drug addict.

I believe it. As a thick chick, I’ve heard it all. At this point, I only want to be treated by women. Not that women don’t pull this shit, but the worst attitude I’ve gotten was from men. (And most of them younger than me!)

Dude, the medical community has some serious issues. I never go to the doctor, have only been to the ER twice in 25 years. My knee just basically quit working a few weeks ago and was in crazy pain so I went to the ER. In the hour and half or so I was there I was told by four separate people they wouldn’t be able to…

Here’s a fun fact: Women are told our whole fucking lives to be aware of our surroundings. And we are. Because men do untold amounts of violence and harm to us. I could start talking about the violence I’ve experienced all along the spectrum and still be talking 24 hours from now. We are aware. You telling us to be…

THAT’S WHY IT’S CONDESCENDING. We already know we need to be hypervigilant in every possible situation because men act like wild fucking animals. To continue repeating it is unhelpful, condescending, clueless, and irritating. So if you really care about women, stop it. If you care more about ignoring what we’re…

It’s darling that you think this comment somehow makes things better.

I honestly think you mean well, but besides your family, women at large don’t need your advice. We know way more about this kind of stuff than you guys do. Maybe listen to us when we say you’re not helping?

The point is that WE KNOW. WE KNOW ALREADY. We are aware. We are much smaller than you and men have proven themselves to be dangerous in a myriad of situations, so WE KNOW. The advice is irritating because WE KNOW and have known our entire lives while men keep insisting on repeating it like we don’t know. WE KNOW…

She literally performed standup about violence against women, so I’m sure she “lived in the real world” and was aware of the dangers. If she had taken an Uber instead of walking and been assaulted by the driver instead, are you still going to say that? I’m willing to wager ALL women are aware of the risk of harm…

I’m sure this woman was very much aware that bad actors exist. I don’t think you’re purposely being patronizing, but that’s how it often comes off when people say things like that, which is why everyone is tired of that shit. Women are raped/murdered almost everyday in broad daylight too. I just really don’t see the…