Okay, so why is some dude's desire to take a picture of my tits or ass from across the room in super zoom where I can't see what he's doing more important than my desire to walk around a con floor dressed like Carol Danvers and look for new comics or indie games without winding up in someone's digital spank bank and…

I'm sure this will come across as aggressive, accusatory or dismissive towards men as a whole, but maybe a lot of articles feel like that because you recognize that you've either participated in or assisted or ignored the behavior that's described in them.

If he's "deeply hurt" by someone saying "no thanks" he needs to get the fuck over it. Do good for the sake of it, not for someone's gratitude. And if they don't want you to interfere and say so, don't, and get the fuck over it.