Oh honey, you are so not selfish. Your feelings are all normal, understandable, and perfectly OK. You have more on your shoulders than any one person should have to cope with, emotionally AND practically.

Consider me duly horrified. Does your husband’s work put horrific pressure on people or something?

I actually rarely feed my son in public - not because of modesty or embarrassment (after all, I gave birth naked in front of two strangers, and then spent two days in hospital topless and having my tits manhandled), but because he’s a livewire who gets too distracted by what’s going on around to eat properly. And that…

holy shit yeah, that’s WAY cuter than my nursing bras. I am a bit sick of shapeless full-coverage, but I’m wearing 30G/GG right now so what can you do :( I’d kill for an unwired moulded-cup nursing bra. I love nursing and don’t want to give it up, but dammit the bras I’m currently stuck with are awful.

Since having my own, I have warm fuzzies towards anyone in the infatuated-but-exhausted new baby stage. Also cute baby pics make me smile.

STOP TRYING TO MAKE ‘BRELFIE’ HAPPEN! ‘BRELFIE’ IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!

A lot of people also apparently use the pics for help with technique and motivation when nursing is hard going. Not everything is about egotism.

A lot of people are into the pics as motivation when they are struggling with feeding. Plus, apparently, the pics can be very useful to instruct in technique.

Haha seriously. I was like “has this person even MET a newborn?” A lot of them don’t so much have “feeding cycles” as a permanent attachment to a delicious milk drip.

I have a five-month-old, and I really don’t know how American women manage to reproduce at all given the shitty maternity leave and incredible paucity of part-time jobs. TWO TO FOUR WEEKS, JESUS CHRIST. Most women would still be bleeding. My SIL knew a woman who had to go back after eight days.

Lewis's Law: "The comments on any internet article about feminism justify feminism."

I hate to say it, but what use is his feeling bad when he's not actually doing anything about it? I mean, from the sentences you listed, he knows what to do (and you're asking specifically). He' just... not doing it. I wouldn't care how baaaaaaaad he feels. If he feels bad, he could relieve that feeling by saying,…

I hate to say it, but what use is his feeling bad when he's not actually doing anything about it? I mean, from the sentences you listed, he knows what to do (and you're asking specifically). He' just... not doing it. I wouldn't care how baaaaaaaad he feels. If he feels bad, he could relieve that feeling by saying,…

Stick it out until your due date at least, honestly. Induction is tough and significantly increases the chances you'll need an intervention of some kind, plus induced contractions can be brutal. Stay on your feet plenty, nap in between! A long walk on my due date got the Foxcub on his way.

AHHH MAHHH GAHHHHHD SO ADORABLE

Dude. I have a 3-month-old who is pretty boob-attached, but a) he goes to bed at 7, and if I'm going out in the evening, of course he isn't coming with me - it'd be no good for him; b) the last thing I'd want if I had the chance to go out and meet my girlfriends for dinner is to BRING THE DAMN BABY.

Dude. I have a 3-month-old who is pretty boob-attached, but a) he goes to bed at 7, and if I'm going out in the evening, of course he isn't coming with me - it'd be no good for him; b) the last thing I'd want if I had the chance to go out and meet my girlfriends for dinner is to BRING THE DAMN BABY.

I describe myself as an "apatheist" (a term I heard of via Ben Goldacre of Bad Science). I'm satisfied that there is no God, and I don't really consider the question very interesting.

most of the mothers suffering from postnatal depression I've seen are afraid that their kids are going to be taken away from them.

I didn't find it hurt, and I did find it usefully distracted me from contractions - although what probably helped me most was finding out I'd progressed much further than I thought at home! I was pretty reluctant to take off the TENS to get in the water (and then pretty reluctant to get out of the water). Whether it…