Amen to that. It's not like erotica NEEDS to be a high art form. You can bang out a decent-sized chapter in an hour or two if you're motivated (and by motivated I mean turned on).

Oh, I feel obligated to like exactly nothing because of my orientation. It's just that they're inescapable in queer spaces in my area and while they certainly have their musical merits, etc etc etc, it's a little exasperating to have actual other queers act all aghast because I'm not exactly a superfan.

I actually heard Closer and kind of got MORE disappointed... The Con was the only thing of theirs I really liked all that much. Maybe I'll give it another shot, but I don't know.

As a straight white male you would probably have no way to know (unless you've got a lot of queer friends) that they're actually queer icons. They're a little inescapable at this point. To give you some perspective: Until 2012 a great way to find out if a chick swung your way without coming right out and saying it was…

Good luck! I wish you many happy periodless cycles!

Someone please tell me that I am not the only dyke in the Western Hemisphere who is kinda sick of Tegan and Sara.

God that was beautiful. Thank you.

WHOAH WHOAH. Wasn't Daystar trans*? And Erik Storn was for sure some kinda nonbinary. Not sure Alysia is the first.

Look, Reece, if it works for you and you're doing it of your own volition, it works for you - but how dare you make a blanket statement about what femininity is? Does ANYONE really know what femininity or masculinity is? I mean, I don't, it's totally changed based on who I'm asking. And if you weren't feminine, as a…

Doug, if you think you're gonna get cool-kid points for snarking on a bunch of people who run around with brooms in their hands chasing spherical objects:

Does she have any sensation in her breasts? I've got breast cancer on both sides and I've been thinking about testing for the BRCA mutations when I can. If I do test positive undergoing surgery and implants is a definite option. My only concern would be loss of sensation. (Well, that and possible scarring, but better…

Fear not! Some are educated! My high school American Government class once spent a whole bass discussing how hideous Margaret Thatcher was as a leader. (It started as comparing parliament to Congress and then PMs to Presidents and it just kind of spiraled.)

Ah, I get that. If you've been fantasizing about anything in particular - I always kind of wanted to tie someone up, for example - bring it up in conversation. If not, do some research (I personally recommend written erotica because most porn is so male-focused it's painful), find something that turns you on, and…

My strategy (and I've only had one partner with whom I've had any kind of actual sex, but lots of... kinky foreplay partners?) is to just make sexual dialogue an open part of the relationship. Sitting down and actually saying "listen, I like openly communication about all things in our relationship, including…

In the spirit of Jezebel: Ovomancy! Let me point you right in the direction of breaking eggs. Observing the flight path of birds. (Also killing a raven and cutting out its entrails. But don't do that.) Nordic runes. The ogham. Scrying. Etc etc etc. Are you looking in any direction in particular?

I've been wondering too... I broke up with my last ex in December (well actually she broke up with me, now that I think of it) and I still have this one gift she gave me. I gave back all her shit that I borrowed from her and made her give back all of mine that she borrowed from me, but I just haven't figured out what…

So I just purchased my first actual vintage slip - it's this ubersexy full slip that's kind of a slightly longer, black version of Taylor's Cat on a Hot Tin Roof thing, I can never wear it when I'm staying at home because the parents will be scandalized (and confused as to why I own a slip), ergo it's everything I…

I don't do one-night stands (just not my thing), but a friend does, and I always thought her strategy was brilliant:

Well, my nookie is with other women... pregnancy is not a concern, and my cramps aren't bad enough for me to show significant physical symptoms of the pain. So she doesn't see a need for it.

I always wonder just how often the whole Vodou intimidation thing does happen.