THIS. So much this. I am white, married to a non-white man, and the mental aerobatics people do subconsciously to affirm their assumption that we don't look like we belong together is astounding. These are usually people who are perfectly nice to us, they don't mean us harm, but that doesn't mean they aren't acting…

He also says he was carrying a case-less macbook air. I don't know about you but where I live, that's a standard-issue accessory for homeless people. He might as well have been wearing a "HOMELESS" badge.

He also says he was carrying a case-less macbook air. I don't know about you but where I live, that's a standard-issue accessory for homeless people. He might as well have been wearing a "HOMELESS" badge.

Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Surrogacy is the Wild West. At least in states I'm familiar with, legally a child's mother is defined as the woman who gives birth and father as the inseminator, often presumed by statute to be the husband at the time if there is one, but unlike the mother, a father can claim…

Yeah I'm always able to pay before and after. Sex on a full bladder is agony. Pro tip: take 1000 mg vitamin C a day if you are having lots of sexytimes like in a vacation or something. You excrete the extra and it makes your pee acidic and kills bacteria. I was prescribed this by a urologist.

Of course this advice comes from a male urologist who has never felt the agony of their full bladder getting rammed repeatedly. If you are well hydrated you can pee before and after.

This. I had medical issues that zapped my libido and energy and made sex painful. I've walked in on my now-husband masturbating to porn, woken up to him masturbating in bed, you name it. Depending on my mood I'd say an encouraging/approving word and move on, or occasionally lend a hand or mouth. I was always happy…

That's an insane co-pay. My pelvic PT has a doctorate and bills less than 80/visit for ppl without insurance coverage. And insurance often covers some. A pelvic pain specialist OBGYN shouldn't cost more to visit than your standard OBGYN, especially with insurance.

Pelvic pain specialists are out there but can be hard to find. I have something somewhat related - high tone pelvic floor dysfunction. Basically I had a blood cyst burst in my abdominal cavity, causing pain and in response all the muscles of my pelvic floor spasmed, didn't stop, and the muscles shortened over time.…

I don't feel it at all anymore, but I did when I was starting out. I'm sure not everyone feels it. I'm just answering the question of what people like about it. It has that side-effect for some people. I think it's partly about staying awake through a dose big enough to cause the feeling, and part about individual…

The sensation of pain relief can be felt like a bodily euphoria. When your body adjusts after you take it for a few days consecutively, you don't get sleepy. I get the bodily euphoria, it's pleasant, but I don't have any desire to abuse. My pain doc told me 10% of people are just predisposed to become addicted.

50% of pregnancies in the US are unplanned. So I think planning for that is important, but to do that and also not treat women as incubators-in-waiting you have to actually acknowledge abortion and reproductive choice. And sadly, I don't see that happening.

You will be fine. There is a small increase in risk of heart defects with first trimester opioid use mainly late first trimester, but it is both dose-dependent (so your dosage being opioid naive is LOW) and correlates most strongly with the peaks and troughs of addiction usage, not steady therapeutic use. Addicts get…

THIS. It's so frustrating. It's one thing to encourage everyone who would keep a pregnancy to get folic acid because it's really no bother and by the time you know you are pregnant it's mostly too late. But expecting women to make all of their self care decisions around being incubators is sooo terrible. Also, as a…

Don't worry about it. There is a slight risk of heart malformations in the first trimester. But it's very slight, dose dependent, and seems to correlate much more to the peaks and troughs of addictive painkiller use than steady therapeutic use. At the dose an opioid naive patient would get of codeine, the risk is…

Wow. That make a LOT more sense. She let a drunk driver drive a U.S. Soccer van (!) 30 days suspension seems totally in line - though seriously, they should also at this point make her employment conditional on sobriety and offer her treatment.

I think corgis is referencing a behind closed ovens post on kitchenette where a customer refused to eat something naturally red, I think it was bell peppers or tomatoes, because he was "allergic to the color red." Nothing about red dye allergies!

I worked with him on a show a few years ago. He was a really lovely man. A big classical music buff, we bonded by talking opera and orchestra politics. He was very knowledgeable about a broad range of subjects, he could always make you laugh or regale you with a fascinating tale. He loved to proudly brag about his…

Yeah the weakness of the case was in proving the quo of the quid pro quo. If he wasn't giving favors for the stuff she got, she was manipulative but there wasn't corruption. I don't believe that they are innocent, but the "blame it on mom" defense is to get her off the hook as well - since she doesn't really have the…

Not to mention, Ebola can't survive outside the body for long so three weeks of closure for "decontamination" is bullshit. It was maybe thought necessary to quell public fear about going to her salon, but that is hardly caused by the virus itself.