*smh* So we’ve gone from doing this once a day to having to do it twice in one day. I didn’t think there were this many non-woke men in the universe. Hachi’s already made it clear what the biggest problem is with your response. I have some supplemental material for you, some of it from this erstwhile publication right…

You’re wrong, and I suggest that you look up the legal definition of assault the next time before you decide to say something that ... uninformed.

The invasive interviews also force poor women into the following dilemma: you either provide all the information truthfully, after which there is a record of every single mistake or shortcoming in your personal, financial, and educational life, which can be used against you in various proceedings, including those…

I hear ya. I stopped dating in my 20’s as well (36 now). I just seriously hated everything about the entire song and dance, from the posturing to the whole first date to the “trying to figure out where we stand” crap. Given the option I’d have just skipped it and gone straight to “comfortable relationship.” Sadly, the…

I quit dating when I was 23 and life (for me) is much better without all of the heartache. I’m not 100% committed to being alone forever, but I am hovering around 99.5% at age 34. Good on people who find love and it works, but I knew very early that that shit is painful when it doesn’t work and I’d rather do without.…

People instinctively evaluate privilege on both an absolute and a relative basis though.

I’m a straight woman, and I have never understood why this guy keeps getting singled out as the Woke Bae Feminist Boy Icon du jour. He’s just another smarmy male comedian telling the same jokes as his forebears & giving off a slightly-creepy-under-the-harmless vibe. Dime a dozen.

Exactly. And my fear for #metoo is that we sacrifice a few of the really “bad” scapegoats like Weinstein and pretend that’s meaningful progress while ignoring (or worse, continuing to normalize) the spectrum of gender-based violence that allowed these monsters to flourish in silence and compliance.

And honestly, back…

They nearly dislocated all their shoulders with how fast they wanted to pat themselves on the back after the Louis CK stuff became more than a blind item because they were sooooooo right to post those whispers and wait for their tips inbox to flood with The Truth.

Seriously I was revolted how many stars that “groupies” comment had. Do better, Jez readers.

This whole comments section is a shit show. Jez is fucking terrible now.

I know right!? I’ve been recanting the summary of this entire thing to my girlfriend over the three day weekend. She used to date men. And she’s essentially told me that this is what it is like. And that it took her years to realize it wasn’t ok, AND THAT MEN LIE ABOUT NOT BEING ABLE TO READ NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION.…

The fact that so many people think this was just “bad sex” honestly frightens me. He literally ignored all verbal cues to stop or slow down, ignored the fact that she would pull away and freeze up, followed her around his apartment, and kept groping her and putting her hand on his dick. That is not bad sex. That is…

Thank you. That piece sparked more discussion among my social group than anything Jezebel has written on the topic. My first reaction was to resist Grace’s claim of sexual assault, which made me feel internally conflicted. But after sitting with my discomfort, I realized my initial reaction was due to Ansari’s…

Then started again. Repeatedly.

Ansari has always struck me as a creep, and I have long felt that straight women lauding him as some sort of feminist ally hero was indicative of their desperation to make nice with straight men.

Do you know who does stuff like this? Who ignores communication from their partner, going ahead with whatever they want to do sexually, while always making sure to stay on the legal side of things? PREDATORS. It is not the men who care deeply about making sure their partners want to be there and are comfortable but…

It is so real — I was immediately talking about the situation, the coercion, consent etc. on a group text with three of my best friends because it struck such a chord. I’m hoping for more follow-up and discussions.

Jezebel, What Are You Doing? Days of silence on the topic, and then what comes forth is not actually the thinkpiece on sexual coercion and the “ways consent can feel blurring”, on how predators purposefully use bullshit excuses about “miscommunication” to get away with it, about how Ansari is more representative of…