Right, Sade's clarified that this isn't what she was referring to but I definitely shared your knee-jerk reaction there which, I'll admit, somewhat ruined the rest of the article for me. Clearly, people can identify however the heck they want to, but seriously, the next time someone gives me the Look of Horror at…

I always assumed that African-American was a term for Americans of black African descent/ancestry. The Americans of Nigerian descent I know usually refer to themselves as 'Nigerian-American' as far as I know, so there's generally no cultural confusion there. On a side note with the lactose intolerance thing, I and a…

Thanks for the thoughtful, honest response :)

Right, Sade has clarified that this wasn't what she was implying, but I've definitely heard the 'self-hate' (denial?) version of the sentiment among members of our community- like, we all know that one black person who will rattle off their 1/16th Native/Italian/Irish ancestry with relish, but will recoil with horror…

Wow, a lot of responses here so I'll try to do the responding to myself while attempting to respond to everyone thing. Thanks for the mostly reasoned, honest replies all.

Thanks for the response, Sade. I understood your main point concerning the limited options for make up among brown skinned women but the first few lines, particularly the first line, were a bit jarring to me for the reasons mentioned in my post which was why I thought I'd mention it. Didn't expect such a huge…

Oh black people in the Americas...honest question, why is everyone opposed to the idea of being called 'African'? Is this somehow related to that quote from Hotel Rwanda where the white colonel goes, " You're black. You're not even a nigger. You're an African." alluding to the idea that Africans are the lowest on the…

False statement. Your mother didn't get enough to eat during your gestational period, didn't get the right vitamins, nutrients, hospital visits etc because she was too poor to get money for those items? Well, tough luck kid, 'cause you might be born underweight, with moderate to severe physical and mental deficiencies…

I will join you on Shredder...I will also own that pun.

Agreed. I have no personal stake in the matter so personally, I don't care how an individual gender identifies. However, the question you raise, 'what makes us feel we are our gender' or even further 'what does it mean to feel we are a gender' is quite interesting from a philosophical standpoint. Personally, I'm not…

Right, thanks for the comment- your response perfectly encapsulated the problematic aspects that I'd heard debated over and over in liberal circles. I think this idea of trans people as in some sense 'upholding the status quo' is what a lot of liberal scholars/feminists react to in these debates. I'm with you, as…

Posted in another thread, but I'll admit, though I understand, in theory, the gender/sex distinction, I've always thought there might be something a bit problematic in how we define gender identity (if you are a woman because you feel you are a woman, then what is it about the term 'woman' that you identify with if…

I'll admit, though I understand, in theory, the gender/sex distinction, I've always thought there might be something a bit problematic in how we define gender identity (if you are a woman because you feel you are a woman, then what is it about the term 'woman' that you identify with if it's not simply genitalia?).…

The way I understand it, 2nd wave feminists are rejecting notions of woman= traditional displays of femininity (dresses and dolls, cooking, mothering, make-up, the gentler sex, that whole shebang) and believe that transwomen seek to conform to traditional notions of femininity, thereby undermining their attempts at…

Posted above, but if this is too be believed, women are very interested: http://www.delish.com/food/recalls-reviews/hooters-style-restaurant-in-korea-caters-to-women. I think you'd need to market it differently- some Disneyish romance atmosphere + hot manly men working types (with clothes on, revealing but tasteful-…

And it seems, a 'Hooters for women' already exists...in South Korea: http://www.delish.com/food/recalls-reviews/hooters-style-restaurant-in-korea-caters-to-women. Apparently a taste of Disney romance atmosphere + hot manly men working types serving you = hit among women. And they do it with their shirt on too.

The South Koreans are way ahead of you there: http://www.delish.com/food/recalls-reviews/hooters-style-restaurant-in-korea-caters-to-women. Though no speedos there.

Haha, kudos to your friend. And true if relatable means more realistic gay romance (or what I imagine more realistic gay romance to be) for you then these dramas can come up a bit weak. Though I'd argue that Formula 17 and Go! Go! G-Boys are textbook romcom and at least a tad relatable (or again so I imagine). But…

May I introduce you to the world of Asian BL dramas (where romance between 2 dudes is presented mostly completely unrealistically which is understandable given that the writers and consumers of these films are mostly women...)-

Not sure why we're debating Joan Small's blackness on here, but for whatever it's worth, as a Nigerian woman with 100% Nigerian family members who have similar features and coloring to Joan Smalls, I approve of her blackness and am not offended... Yes, it would appear that we "100% Black…