I'm going to disagree that men often get messages from their female superiors offering blow jobs. This is 100% a gendered issue. I say this as an owner of a pair of tits. Men may get occasional comments like this (as in, very rarely) but I don't remember the last time I went 48 hours without being asked, in a rather…

That wasn't business rapport. Like at all. And I didn't call her the bad guy. I called her a pushover. In the range of women 1 being qualifies by stating they dress modestly in a story about being a victim of sexual harassment and 10 being will literally kick his dick off, she's definitely a pushover.

Well I'm black, so it's definitely not my white grandpa. And, well to be honest, I have no idea how common it is because it's not the kind of thing white people would say around me, you know? I actually figured it was like 'nigger-rigged' which is more common. Edit: Just googled and I remembered she said 'nigger…

Yeah, I mean I get the shock when it's in person or when there is some physical threat. But a message? Close the window, block them. Walk away from the computer and come back when you can articulate how it was fucked up.

this is like how my friend's white grandpa calls black gummy bears 'nigger bears.' It's funny bc they're black

that reminds me of how my friend's grandpa calls liquorice jelly beans 'nigger beans.' It's funny bc they're black

White people are dirty tbh

It was in response to someone else calling her disgusting. It's no different from posts where we discuss the dresses worn at awards shows. Why are you so mad

Well a kid I fucked in college said I had the softest skin he's ever felt and asked if it was because I was black. Alternately, I have these sort of marbled ass cheeks because of stretch marks and my mother used to call me 'tiger booty.' My husband really likes my skin color, but he's a little impartial. So it depends…

Ah, I see. No, I don't find her existence gross, just her appearance. It wasn't a comment on her character or worth.

Ah apologies! I just re-read another piece of hers and I was wrong. I thought I recalled her saying she'd been thin but recently gained a lot of weight. Another piece starts out by explaining she's always been fat.

From what I understand, the author is newly overweight? So I think a lot of it comes down to various personal issues.

I actually agree with the last line but disagree with the one before. Most people aren't fat simply because they're overeating and being lazy. But I do think most of it caused by lifestyle and it is therefore voluntary. You might hate it but often you don't hate it as much as you enjoy the lifestyle that allows it.

Only in a beauty obsessed culture would my opinion about her dimpled, doughy white skin be taken as an order for to change her dimpled doughy white skin. I don't give a fuck about whether or not Lorde tans. She doesn't exist to please me aesthetically and she's perfectly successful and talented without tanning.

I'm afraid to ask the last time you saw someone spread their legs to take a shit. Like...that is not how you shit

I find her a bit gross but that's mostly because her skin reminds me of raw breakfast biscuit dough

Can you even compare Frank Ocean to Macklemore? Frank's stuff is admirable, but it's not everyone's cup of tea. He bores me to tears. Macklemore is a guilty pleasure because it's so goddamn catchy

I think he should retire. He's had a great career, but his new stuff just sounds lazy. He's an old, rich dad. A cool one. He doesn't need to be a rapper anymore.

You mean cognitive empathy, yes? I also have very good cognitive empathy and it helps me score well on tests of emotional intelligence despite having almost no capacity for affective empathy.

No, I wasn't assuming she was a sociopath. I was discussing one possibility.