Yeah, the 25 was just the arbitrary number my area has deemed safe for gatherings. So I’ve seen a few “There will be fewer than 25 people there and it’s outdoors in my backyard!” weddings this summer. I’d personally feel more comfortable with far fewer people around me than 24 others. But a friend had a wedding where…

Yeah, that too. Although I will say that if you really want to get married, just get married. Just the two of you, maybe your parents. Have a party later. Just get ‘er done and worry about gifts later. Most of the gifts are crap anyway. Or maybe that’s just my family. And no one really enjoys going to a wedding. Or…

I actually love that in Covid-times I’m seeing a good amount of small intimate backyard weddings. 25 people tops. Most of the time, fewer than that. Just make it about the event and not about the big fanfare of it all.

I always wonder how the people with talent who had good acting and music careers feel about being lumped in with Carole Baskin. 

I love this! This is awesome. I’m happy for you. You give me faith. 

That really helps to hear! I was feeling pretty sad about it all. I appreciate that. 

My mom told me a story about how when my grandpa died, within a few months, two old widowers started coming by her house. They knew her from church. One man even romantically said “I hear you are a good cook. I would like someone to cook for me” and my grandma told him “I’m done taking care of other people”

The ghosting! Yes! I don’t even call it “ghosting” if we’re just chatting because it’s so prevalent but I am amazed by how many people think it’s OK to 1) make plans like “Yes, let’s hang out on Wednesday at this bar. We can figure out the time earlier that day” and then not reply ever. or 2) People who will actually…

I am an extrovert and I’m also of the belief that if you want something you have to work at it. So at one point earlier this year I was on Match, Bumble, Tinder, POF and Hinge. I will chat with a lot of people but it rarely turns to a date and then very often on the date, a man who is my age (40s) will inform me that…

True - with him it’s not surprising. I am happy she found someone but I’m also like “Teach me your ways and I will pay good money to hear them!” well, not good money. But I’ll venmo $10 or something.

I have noticed when talking to all of my divorced friends that the men can somehow move on very quickly. Almost all of…

How do these people both find someone so quickly after divorce? I’ve been trying for 2 years and have only gotten a five month relationship with someone that ended because he decided he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. Otherwise, just a lot bad first dates.

I get that we’re not “home schooling” but we’re also not just “parenting” right now - This is honestly somewhere in between. I know it makes teachers furious to hear parents say we hate homeschooling and my Facebook feed is full of them saying “You’re just being parents! You’re doing your job as parents” - but no part…

Yep. That’s my issue. I did not make the bubble for most people. My married friends added other families with a friend for everyone in their family unit. My single friends are bubbling with those who have been their single friends for years and years. Or they’re fully in tune with all of this alone time and are the…

My issue is that as a middle aged woman who moved back to my hometown a bit later in life, an am divorced, a lot of my friendships are tertiary, or activity-based. Like I have a friend that I’d see movies with. Another friend who was always willing to try a new restaurant with me. A third friend who loved live theatre…

I’m divorced so for three days of the school week, the kids are with me and I’m the only one around to help them. Managing two kids school schedules and calls and work and trying to get my own job done really did a number on me in the spring. I could not manage it. It was absolutely fucking terrible. I have been at my…

I briefly lived on my own after college (2 years total?) and then moved in with my boyfriend, who became my husband and who is now my ex-husband. I have two kids so for half the week we are a family of three in a house that I bought with money that I cashed out from retirement. And then they leave go to their dad’s…

This was a question that was brought up in therapy so if it helps, here is what my therapist told me and then what I learned elsewhere:

When I was in the most unhappy years of my marriage the idea that “marriage is hard work” dogged me. I was in therapy one day crying and saying “Maybe this is just what it’s like? I…

It has been a nightmare. I am divorced so for half the week I am the only adult around with two school-aged children working from home. And employers do not trust their employees so every conversation is now a web-meeting conversation so he can see that I’m working. Plus, I get calls and texts at all hours since they…

Agree. It matters so much. Even in my own little pocket of St. Louis we now have two black city council members and I can’t ever recall having that in my lifetime in this county. Also, a proposition passed that will help remove our racist city attorney from his post so it was a very good night for voting. 

I was the wife in a similar situation. I found out my ex-husband slept with someone we all hung out with. He swears it was before we were dating but I don’t believe that. There are enough signs that I can see clearly in retrospect that leads me to believe it had been going on while we were dating. So I know he didn’t…