That advice weirdly came from my Mom. She had a therapist who told her to make a list of all the things that she wanted from a partner. When she came back the next week the therapist looked it over and said that this was her list of things to work on in herself. I've also heard it expressed as "Be the person you want…

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

This is something I'm slowly realizing. My life dream was to be married to a great guy with an amazing career and I'd just take care of him. That was it. All I wanted. And then at 30 and a failed 9 year relationship I realized that it wasn't going to happen. So I went to grad school and started doing the types of…

No. I have another ginger cat named Ginger, so I was going for a classic movie thing with them. But Ginger hates Fred so I gave her to my Mom where she can live a peaceful life as the only cat with no annoying man trying to play with her.

No training. He just naturally loved it. My other cat wouldn't move with it on, so I think it's a personality thing.

My cat Fred has similar high energy levels. I live in an apartment on a busy street so I walk him on a leash to help work out the energy. He loves it (will actually bring me his leash when I get home from work).

Having worked in retail and dealt with customers, I never tried to guess what they actually meant. I'd rather get them to clarify ahead of time than guess and be wrong. Because there's a 50% chance that she would have looked at the latte and asked why there was foam.

Spanx makes AMAZING plus sized tights. I'm an 18/20 and wear their E sized tights and they are perfect. I get the ones that go up to my boobs to prevent any muffin tops but they are very comfortable and long lasting.

Good way to judge someone's entire life by their job. Being a server is all that someone can amount to and is pathetic? A job is a way to pay the bills, not the whole of what a person is. That would include family, friends, the life one leads, the good they bring to the world. I know that as an asshole sociopath you…

Mine suggested that I take a walk when I feel anxious (I'm learning not to eat me feelings). Since my anxiety tends to peak around midnight and I live in a bad neighborhood this does not seem like the best idea.

The only thing I knew about Rashad before this is that her second husband was the cop from the Village People.

This might be hard to believe but the media and societal demonization of black people as thugs who are always more dangerous and animalistic than white people means that many people in society, including black people, are more afraid and violent towards people of color than they would be towards white people. This is…

Race also had everything to do with the way the police responded to the situation which led to the deaths. But I agree, the actually grand jury decisions had way more to do with the ridiculous deference the legal system gives to police officers and the fact that prosecutors don't want to make police look bad in a…

If the person consented to support another person with their body when they have sex, then why does that consent revoke once the child it born? It is logically inconsistent to say "as the mother you MUST use your body to support this fetus until it is born, but at that point you can stop supporting it with your body."…

Did you know that a mother can't be forced to give blood or organ donation to save their child? (I mean child as in actual living breathing birthed child). Because we respect bodily autonomy so much that as a society we say that people can't be legally forced to give up their body so that another person can live.…

It's going to depend where you live. Some states outlaw lay midwives, and in those states you'd get all nurse midwives. But in many states you can call yourself a midwife with just a high school diploma and a weekend program on birth, and they are licensed and everything.

Midwives in the US are very different than the UK. In the US when someone says midwife they often mean a lay midwife, who has no specific medical training or malpractice insurance or oversight. We do have medical midwives (Certified nurse midwives) who are more akin to the UK midwives but often when people in the US…

And if they had worn something fancy then she'd be complaining about how the first family is wasting money on fancy clothes when normal American's are struggling.

The thing that makes me so upset about the "well don't drink and then you won't be raped" argument is that it is basically saying that we are cool with someone else getting raped. Protect yourself. Don't drink, stay in groups, don't go out after dark and make sure that someone else will be victimized instead of you.

This is one sort of great thing about the internet. The reason that the stories were rumors for so long is because anytime an actual journalist wrote anything they had to couch things in terms that were so mild that people reading the story wouldn't be able to know the facts. We see how Cosby handles the media. If you…