The problem with a potluck wedding is sort of similar to the problem with expecting a gift. Technically your guests shouldn't be expected to show up with anything except themselves. That's why they are considered tacky. Not because you have to have a big wedding but because making any type of demand on your guests…

I am embarrassed that I did do a weird "hey, if people want to give me money that's cool" to pay for the vet bills for the cat I ended up with. He was a stray that literally followed me home and had a bunch of problems. I was going to have to put it on my credit card but since so many people were commenting about his…

Because your family would be heartbroken about not getting to spend 6 months ruining your life with wedding planning?

Most places will give you a discount on anything that you put on the registry that doesn't get purchased. So you load it up with anything you could possibly want even if you don't expect people to buy it. My Aunt had a ton of stuff on her registry for her stepchildren which looked really freaking weird when we were…

Literally the only events where gifts are mandatory are showers (wedding/baby/whatever). At every other event gifts are nice, but not expected. This 2009 NYT Article talks about wedding gifts and repeats the info that showers are the only event where a gift is mandatory. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/15/fas…

Showers are the only events where gifts are required. Everything else is optional in any etiquette book pre-2000. I don't really put any stock in modern etiquette books because they all tend to be completely relative and unhelpful for practical situations (i.e. some people expect gifts at a wedding and some people…

I just started my masters in public administration and have been struck STUPID at the number of right wing anti-government types in the program. And the professors also. We keep reading things from The Heritage Foundation as if they are gospel.

You have to put on a hard hat because of liability reasons not OSHA. OSHA's regulations say that visitors should wear these things but not that they must. But because it is an OSHA recommendation a violation of it would likely show negligence in a tort suit.

OSHA actually doesn't apply to porn because OSHA is for employees and porn maintains that the on-camera talent are independent contractors. Although what they are listed as on their taxes isn't as important as how they are treated (employees tend to have less autonomy in how they work than independent contractors).

The only agencies interested in her will be porn companies hoping to cash in on her fame (probably with an interracial video)

My Civ Pro Prof brought food to class (Vegan Chili was her specialty) and in the seminar classes it is typical for them to bring snacks or pizza.

Totally normal.

I wish that we could engage her in a conversation because I suspect that what she means by feeling as if she is a minority because she is straight, she really means that the things that are important to her (fashion, dating, etc.) are not respected at the school. It's just that in her mind fashion/dating are what it…

I always found the students who were drinking during class much more distracting than the eaters.

I once again feel justified in my decision to use erotic fanfiction as my primary wank material.

I suspect it is part of the cold war between "porn sex" and "normal sex". As far as I can tell, one of the big selling point of porn to many guys is that this is something that you aren't going to be able to do with your wife/girlfriend/partner. When you go watch vintage porn (and I mean the ones from the 40s that…

There is nothing she can say, though, that changes the criminality of what he did, or that alters the responsibility of the state to pursue it

The attitude that football players are better people doesn't explain why so many people in the town were unaware that digital penetration of a drunk person is rape. Or that the proper thing to do when you see someone passed out to the point they can't walk is to have someone stay with them and make sure they are okay,…

It depends what phone they were taken on and if it is still being used.

I was actually disappointed they didn't tell the "real" story in 4th grade. I personally am more impressed by people who have a goal, figure out how to reach that goal, and then make it happen than someone who just sort of accidentally ended up starting a movement. I know that the point of the Rosa Parks story we here…