In a perfect world the "in" pair of jeans would be the ones that looked best on your specific body. Those boot cuts look great on person A! They're in. Skinny jeans look good on person B! They're in.

Some of them do. But some of them come from families where people just don't talk about money. They don't tell their parents that they are expecting this payment and their parents don't ask how they are paying for this. Most people aren't going to come out and ask "how are you affording this." I do, because I live…

This is the reason I stopped watching Bridezillas. My Spinster ass sees people like this getting married and the following programming runs through my head.

To be fair everyone I've heard say this has been told it from a wedding planner or someone at the wedding venue. It is just a way to justify the greater expense. Couples (especially young couples who haven't been to many fancy weddings) are told that they don't need to worry about the expense of the reception because…

Well there's a difference between a full open bar and no alcohol (or an all cash bar). My brother's wedding had free beer, wine, and a signature cocktail. The full bar with liquor would have greatly raised the cost of the reception but it isn't like anyone suffered soberly at the thing.

I think that pretty much everyone agrees that parents and children are good for society. There's a reason we offer so many tax benefits to parents. I would probably go further than most people in saying that parents should be given more support (including free child care). There may be some corners of the world where…

No, it's not that you can never ask single people to work because they have to party. It's that you shouldn't ASSUME that the person without children has a totally open schedule. You shouldn't assume that the person without children can jump in at a moments notice because whatever they have scheduled is obviously less…

You are making the blanket assumption that EVERYTHING a parent does with a child is more valuable than whatever a single person is going to do. Which is exactly the problem. Yes, maybe the world will benefit from that Christmas Eve memory. Or, maybe Mom and Dad are assholes and it's just going to be more fodder for…

Personally, it wasn't the "there's a high profile project that needs to get done, let's give it to the single girl" jobs that I would get stuck with. It was the "somebody needs to do this stupid thing" that I'd get stuck with. Being the last person in the office who gets to choose their vacation week (because the…

There's a difference between helping out parents and never getting Christmas Eve off. I have no problem covering for you because your kid is sick, or because your child is getting a special award at school. I don't mind if you bring your kids with you when school is out. I had an entire supply cabinet of video games…

As I understand she was a reluctant witness in the first place. She was added to the witness list pretty late. Telling her the truth of what this was going to be like might have been enough to spook her into not testifying at all. And having to subpoena her is not going to make her a more believable witness. It is a…

In my experience (law student, interned for a summer at the US Atty Office) it is better when a witness doesn't look too prepared. All of the complaints that people are directing at her about how she seems stupid, ghetto, uneducated, and pitiful...those are the types of things that the jury will find BELIEVABLE. The…

I have two cats. Ginger is typical cat. She only loves on me when she thinks I'm sleeping, and if I move she runs away. Fred, on the other hand, was discovered in the garbage can outside my law school at 3 AM. I was leaving the library and he popped out, meowed at me, and then followed me to my car and jumped in.

Which makes it all the worse for Thomas. It's one thing to have people accuse you of getting somewhere just because of your race if it's bullshit. You can hold up your grades or accomplishments to tell them to fuck off. But if you don't have those things...yeah...that sort of makes it worse.

The fact that Thomas' experience with racism has led to his strong stance against affirmative action would make an interesting article. It isn't a situation unique to Thomas. Paul Ryan's family was on some of the same government assistance programs his budget would have eliminated. Marsha Blackburn voted against the…

There's a good (but older) Sociology book called Contested Lives that interviews pro- and anti- choice advocates in, I think, Ohio. The amazing thing is that the women on both sides say they are working to help women. And I think they REALLY believe that. It's just that the anti-choice people tended to say that a…

No, you should give the child up to a good Christian couple to raise in a two parent household.

There Is Nothing Wrong With You. It's a book by Cheri Huber that is self-help/Buddhism that was super helpful to me when I was dumped from the only guy who ever dated me. I was hot when we started dating but over the next 9 years I gained weight, got hairy, got bad skin (all resulting from PCOS) and then found out I…

Yes, women suffer from depression and anxiety more than men in the general population. But alcoholics (male and female) suffer from depression and anxiety at much higher rates than the general population.

I suspect that the wedding industrial complex the helped start the idea that gifts should be equal to or greater than the cost of the wedding. "I know that $100 per head sounds like too much money, but you'll make it back in wedding gifts."