Thanks!

That's a really good point, about "male" attitudes. I don't know, though. If you're saying "male" as in "boys will be boys", that's obviously bad because it's excusing it. But on the other hand, I think it's hard to break out of any stereotype if you can't identify it in the first place. Maybe? I think it's a…

This is *awesome*. I've been looking for something like this. I've been trying to examine my motives and thoughts for a while now, and it's a lot easier to see all the bad stuff in me than the good. Even when I'm not doing something wrong, it's been mostly like, "Okay, I don't tell random women to give me a smile…

I've definitely thought this was a possibility before. And then a lot of people pointed out that the way I phrased it was actually somewhere between "a little" and "very" biased of me. It was just more nuanced than I'd recognized before, it's actually changed the way I think about it. I'd point you to the thread,…

Actually, Lindy was the first to respond, and she was making a joke. I just missed it because it hit so close to home for me and I didn't find it funny. It's okay, not everything is funny to everybody, it was an honest misunderstanding. Which isn't to say the lack of women in science isn't a problem, but there's…

Actually, if you watch closely, the nerds are full characters. They're real people with their own pitfalls and issues. Some jokes aren't the greatest, but as far as I can remember, they never imply that nerds are bad, broken, or worthless people like high-school bullies might.

Hey, thought: if you want to chat, email M8R-siq0nc@mailinator.com. (It's a one-way anonymous email address, it's kinda cool, check out mailinator.com.) I can give you real contact info from there, I just don't exactly want to publish it on here and make it too easy to end up on spam lists.

Right?? I had no idea about the sheer psychological stress. I mean, there *have* to be studies on graduate student psychology. Many of the grad students I know find help, but it makes me worried about the ones that fall through the cracks. Not even a flyer, that would be a bare minimum. Maybe we should *do*…

That sounds about right. I can only think of two here too, maybe we go to the same place. This is why I go to rock climbing and yoga nearly every night. I have to go someplace where people act at least a little more reasonably. It's really the only way to stay sane.

This seems like a common post here - there's been several others. It's just wrong, that there's people that cause these problems. I really hope you've found a place to be happy. And I'll keep doing my best.

Oh thanks. :)

Glad it's mostly worked out for you. :) And thanks!

Oh yeah, for sure. I went into this knowing I'd have to stick around if I wanted to get anything real out of it. And anyways, I actually have a cold and I can't do anything else right now, lol. It's pretty miserable.

For real, I like the way you've put it all. Good luck in grad school too. I've seen physics grad chew people up. It doesn't seem to matter where you're from, how good you are, what your gender is, everybody's fair game. May you come out in better shape than me. :)

Thanks!

Thanks!

Thanks for the psychology link. One of the hardest parts about this all, if I'm being brutally honest, is that I know I must have some bias. I'm pretty sure we all do. It's very hard to see it all by myself. Probably impossible.

It's definitely tough. I think the best we can do is look backwards and take some courage from the progress we've made as a civilization. Feminism, racism, socioeconomic inequality - at least we seem to be improving. That gives me hope that the future will be even better.

Hi, I'm sorry if I offended you. I did misinterpret the author - it's actual a rather personal matter to me, it hits close to home. I have a hard time when people joke about the stereotypes in science, because they're real problems I deal with every single day. It's sort of how I have a hard time laughing when Big…

That sounds rough, dealing with people who think they're better than you just because they've got a Y chromosome. I don't know what to say other than "good luck". I just don't have any answers other than to know they're just plain *wrong*.