Her decline is hitting me hard. I am going to vote for her in my primary still, but at some point I will probably need to swap to Bernie because of their very close policy positions. But it hurts after seeing how shitty (some very online) Bernie supporters have treated and talked about her, and now I have to be in…

I’m so sad about Warren’s rapid decline.  I really love her message, her passion, and her policy wonkiness.  I’m also more irritated than usual about the media frenzy feeding into this idea that somehow Iowa and New Hampshire, two very small, fairly conservative, and white states get to set the entire narrative for…

Exactly. Men with crinkly skin, grey hair and dad-bods are allowed to retain “sex symbol status” till their 70's. Women: you can be fifty, but you better be flawless.

Seriously. At age 56 Brad Pitt was recently shirtless in Once Upon a Time in Hollywood looking every bit as implausibly hot as JLo. Where are the male bloggers and thought pieces about how intimidated they are about that and how they’ll never look like that again? Guys don’t think about things like this because they…

Maybe someday middle-aged women will actually be seen.

54 and was prematurely grey in my younger years. I remember when the invisibility happened, about 5 years ago - I was at a hotel bar and the bartender literally did not see me. It has only increased since then - people walking into me on the sidewalk, not seeing me on subway stairs, waitstaff not noticing when I’m…

What I’m taking from this is that you, Tracy, are doing a much better job of cultural commentary than Jennifer Weiner is doing. I’m 54. I’m ambivalent about my own place in the hierarchy of sexual objectification, because while I absolutely understand, and feel, the deep problems of objectifying women’s bodies, and…

Speaking as someone who actually IS 50, having a 50 year old flaunt a body few 25 year-olds have is indeed simply implausible, not transgressive. It’s so difficult to look like that at age 50 it’s not surprising that everyone is staring, and it doesn’t do anything for the 99.999% of 50 year-old women who look nothing…

Perhaps I’ve been too scarred by the false hope of the Obama years, when so much optimism and excitement and energy quickly curdled and went sour after candidate Obama became President Obama, and he abandoned the grassroots campaign that had powered his victory.

My mother, after the sudden death of my teenaged sister, said something that will always stay with me, especially as parent, myself. She said, “For all these years, I’ve looked at you both and thought that ‘I would just die if something bad happened to either one of you.’ And the shitty thing is, is that when it…

Thank you. I can’t get on board with the whole ‘your identity determines what you’re allowed to write’ edict that caricaturesque woke folk keep trying to make a universal rule. It’s ridiculous because, as you say, Bolaño’s sublime 2666 is proof that not only Mexicans can write about Mexico. It’s more about HOW these…

I read both of the linked reviews. And both of the articles about the book here on Jezebel. As indicated in my comment, the only criticism I see is about the stereotypes and the fact that the author isn’t Mexican.

The focus on “Who gets to write what” is a fantastic way to ensure that anyone with a keyboard can write a book review.

God, I’m so fucking tired of the poor immigrant struggling narrative. Yes, there is great struggling, but not everyone leaves because of Narcos. Granted in 2020 the situation is very different and circumstances have definitely changed since my parents came to the us but Immigrants aren’t a monolith. I remember having…

The book is fantastic. If you find yourself in a room counting how many of a certain race is there, you need to get a life and stop being a racist cunt

People sure do seem to be up in arms. About a book. An Oprah bookclub book.

Her soul needs no saving. She has done nothing wrong. That said, those are worthy organizations. 

I tend to agree that people shouldn’t have to publicly divulge their charitable donations. In fact, there’s something a little weird about doing so, and can cast suspicion on people’s motivations for giving money in the first place. 

I agree with this. Those white women sitting around in this audience probably voted for Trump. If this book IN ANY WAY helps shift their viewpoint, then great. I’m sure there are a lot of other books that tell “this story” better and more authentically, but we all know these women will not be reading those books. The…