I found post graduate study terribly lonely!! It's not at all like undergrad - where I also didn't meet any lifelong besties, but at least I had people to commiserate with and spend time with on a daily basis. Being a grown up sucks. Life gets in the way. People move. Romantic relationships break up and split friend…

To make a friend you must be a friend - you are halfway there now that you have taken care of your needs mental health wise, be there for someone if you think they could use a friend and something might blossom from that. :)

I was in two separate "three-way best friendships" and I considered all of the ladies my best friends, and I would have been theirs. All five of us would hang out on occasion, but it was usually me and one other pair. You could have thought of it like each of those pairs were "best" friends with one another and I was…

Maybe it's a non-issue to you, but for me this couldn't have come at a better time. The transition into adulthood is a tough one, and the changes to the "rules" of relationships can be a difficult thing to navigate. I often get really depressed thinking something is wrong with me because I lack the close relationships…

I felt this way using the word "boyfriend" at about that age too!

I want that bestie experience too... am just beginning to accept that maybe it doesn't exist. Or perhaps it's the same with romantic relationships, once you stop looking for it, bam! it comes along from out of the blue.

Those men will probably soon meet some (hopefully cool/awesome) ladies and break up the sausage fests a little bit soon. This has started happening in a really big way in my friend group! Of course the guys are my age though so their girlfriends are often quite a bit younger, but they are a nice bunch of chicks.

You need to read Married White Female Seeks BFF, both book and blog. It describes your situation, and trying to make new friends in a new city is a lot like dating! In the end though, she does end up with a circle of different people meeting her needs, rather than a single "bestie".

My partner is also my best friend. I still yearn for a female "buddy" though, and sometimes I think that having been in a long term relationship for such a long time has actually cost me a lot of bonding time with other females. Single people do tend to commiserate about the dating scene together, go to more parties…

Nah - I totally got this feeling too. I thought it was an attempt at satire - though a pretty soft one, and too right I suppose, if it's going to be published in men's health. It wasn't really aggressive and obviously hyperbolic like the satire here at Jez, so that means it wasn't satire?

I also tend to use engine braking rather than actual brakes but of course you can only do that in a manual car (stick shift for those of you in the US and A).

OK I'm sorry, I clicked over to the article and I DID read sarcasm and satire. Was that just me? Have I been reading too much Jezebel, so I just read everything that way now, by default?

I'm not saying not to slow down for corners - I'm just saying you don't have to brake to slow down. There are other methods!

WTF why did they blur it! It's just a mouth FFS!!!!

Or people who actually brake for every curve - you can just take your foot off the accelerator briefly BEFORE the corner to slow down but maintain a reasonably smooth pace.

Hahaha I have this problem with people who wait in a que for 15 mins at Subway and instead of using that time to decide what they would like, they assess the situation only when they actually reach the counter, with a long "uuuuuuhm..."

A classmate of mine in university once brought her sick child (about 7 years old?) TO A LECTURE because the child was too sick to go to school and the mother couldn't possibly miss the lecture or else she wouldn't be able to be there to ask inane questions in person. The rest of the lecture theatre was like "Oh HELL…

Hahaha my MIL did this. But only recently. And to my fucking face!! Ha!

I do think you're onto something with that tolerance thing. My partner always claimed to be deathly allergic to cats, and indeed he was quite sneezy when we got our first one. But now they can get right in his face for smooches, sleep on his pillow/face - he can even give them a good hair-flying-everywhere brush…

Man we get higher fines than that for not registering the dog on time!! And it's going to cost a LOT more than that to pay for the monkey's board at the sanctuary!