so the most likely scenario here is she rebuffed his advances and he killed her, right?

I don’t really see negative attitudes about poly or open relationships. I see negative attitudes towards the way that MVP’s partner presented this to her - basically with no lead up and in a way that was focused primarily on him rather than them. It’s also not unreasonable to assume that her partner has either already…

Were you looking to solve a problem in your relationship by opening it up to other people? Cuz that’s what this guy is doing instead of actually working with the LW to fix/solve the problem. That never works. Nobody is judging poly/open relationships. They’re judging the bullshit coming out of this guys mouth…

You flatter me (while insulting these sweet letter writers). I have some advice for you!

So, like, it’s the way he’s going about it that’s foul. He was in a monogamous relationship and now wants to open it up but, according to MVP, this is the first she’s heard that he’s not been happy for 2 years. If he went into it being like, “hey I’m poly, let’s do the damn thing,” before the 4 years I’d be much more…

“Rutting around down there”. This is hilarious.

Also - boyfriend is (or wants) cheating but also wants “girlfriend” in the picture in case cheating sex scenario doesn’t work out to his satisfaction.

I have a friend like that as well, where all this crazy amazing stuff happens but only when you aren’t around. And then they forget you were with them when you went to that weird ice cream place and you know what they are saying is wildly exaggerated. I know for her it’s rooted in needing for feel important most of…

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Okay, I actually am in a polyamorous relationship, and have been since about 2001, and I can tell MVP that there’s actually a term for the bullshit her boyfriend is pulling. It’s called “Relationship Broken? Add More People!”, and it refers specifically to the kind of person who thinks that polyamory is a solution to…

That happened to me! My ex didn’t find anyone interested and he got mad at how many guys were coming up to me. I realized poly coupling wasn’t for me and dumped him. Now I’m upfront with anyone I date so no one gets stuck in unhappy situation.

No he does not.

YES! Happened to me in college. Boyfriend wanted to be able to see other people, I reluctantly agreed and ended up with an awesome, sexy, funny, cool dude. Guess who was really pissed off and wasn’t getting any???? HA HA

As the more affluent sister, I got a lot of resentment from mine. What she doesn’t know is that I was homeless and broke for a few years of my life. At that time, she was doing coke and stripping for a living. I recovered, got a law degree and am doing well. Her, well, she keeps making the same mistakes. But I love…

Friends who lie and exaggerate are the worst. I have one like this. We used to be best friends, but not anymore. She’s one of those people who has to one-up everything you say. If you believe everything she says, she’s jockeying for the position of The Most Interesting Person in the World, which works for…

Dear MVP,

Yup, every time I’ve heard of a relationship opening up later in, it’s either one of two scenarios in a cis-hetero pairing: the woman gets way more attention, or the one who initialized the opening inevitably gets jealous of their partner’s new person.

Opposite note for MVP. Your dude will be deeply sorry when he finds out you could have a revolving door of lovers at your beck and call. I swear every other story I hear of a guy wanting an open relationship ends in him finding out that you will have a LOT easier time finding lovers then he ever will. And once the…

I read this title as “ my boyfriend wants new pussy but still needs to split the rent cost”