I believe you’re in the wrong neighborhood.

he’s not confused-he was making a joke. Maybe bookmark this for future reference in your journey on the internet. It’s mostly jokes.

Totally real. I’m betting coin-flip odds that she wants to baby-trap him. I’ve known people (not friends, but like...acquaintances sorta? Relatives of friends? Etc?) who have done this. You get pregnant to try to get the guy to stay with you because omg faaaaaamily now you have a baaaaaby you can’t leave meeeeee.

I loved your response to WTH, all perfectly true and beautifully written. My favorite video on the subject from another Dr.:

Lady from the first letter is angling for an “accidental” pregnancy. There is no reason why she’d shutdown the idea of him having a vasectomy otherwise.

Hey RitS,

A few other people have said this, but if your significant other’s reaction to “can we not consider other birth control methods (apart from withdrawal, which is not dependable) if you’re uncomfortable with latex condoms” is, “well, we can just never have sex again,” you need to get gone.

Like, yesterday.

There…

She keeps insisting that she has done this her entire sex life with every relationship, and if she was going to have gotten pregnant now she would have already.

I got to that part of the letter and it was like in movie trailers where the record scratches and the tone changes.

Right?

Yup. Dr. Nerdlove humoring the letter writer by focusing on the “protection” part rather than recognizing his sexual partner is emotionally abusive is concerning.

First letter writer, w t f. That’s all fine birth control advice doc, but how the fuck are you completely ignoring the way his girlfriend is acting about it? Seriously wtf???

My immediate thought was just get a vasectomy without telling her, relish in all the fleshy, bare sex you want, and then reverse it later.

Raincoats needs to dump her ASAP. She’s either trying to get knocked up or is using his discomfort with unprotected sex to make not having sex “his choice”. Dollars the doughnuts that if he gives in to her the sex is going to go away regardless.

At the beginning we were using latex protection but she has always hated them (which to be fair, same) stating that “they make my vagina hurt,”, and “you are too large already.”

I brought this up to her and her solution is “we can just not have sex ever again.”

Doc, how come in your letter to the first writer you didn’t acknowledge the totally not cool all-or-nothing ultimatum by his lady friend? I’d say the fact that she’s withholding sex because LW1 doesn’t want to take unnecessary risks with his health and wellbeing is a pretty huge red flag.

This was surprisingly meaningful. Thanks for sharing!

For a 1950's video, it was surprisingly solid advice.

Patrick, in a million years, I would have never thought you would be tapped to give Lifehacker readers “the talk”.

this is a good post. I was dumb and literally didnt have a single dime to my name at age 35. Ive done my best to make up for it in the 11 years since then but, man, if i had maybe done a little less partying and saved even a tiny fraction of the amount of money i spent on booze in my 20s and early 30s my savings would…