Oh yeah, I agree with you, but until you replied, I wasn’t sure how familiar you were with code-switching and such, and I’m way too used to people having very prescriptive attitudes about grammar and thinking that the standard version of a language is the only acceptable version. But yeah, you are absolutely right…

I hate to say this, but it’s not a totally off base idea in the field of linguistics, though more so with regards to spoken language, rather than written language. There is definitely a standard version of American English, that is generally based on the way that more elite people in a society generally speak (this…

Exactly! This also kind of reminds me of my dad’s situation, in that like Meghan Markle, he also has half siblings (on both his mom and dad’s side though), but he only invited the siblings on his mom’s side to his wedding because they were the ones who actually grew up with him, and his mom was the parent who actually…

If they’re particularly new to a career field, meeting anyone important, and especially famous who you admire, can be intimidating and make you more likely to put up with bad behavior on the more prominent person’s part. She likely was already kind of star struck by Diaz and then likely didn’t want to cause a scene or…

Ok, had trouble logging on, apologies if this ends up being a double post. Anyway, if middle grade fiction sounds fun, or if you want a good book to buy for a kid, I’d recommend Love, Sugar, Magic: A Dash of Trouble by Anna Meriano.

Also, normalizing it probably makes having sex less appealing in some ways. When it’s this big, forbidden thing for teens, they’re more likely to be like, “oh, sex, I’m not allowed to do it, but adults seem to really like it, so it must be awesome!” But when they actually know what sex entails and are given a…

My sex ed was mediocre at best. I grew up in New Jersey, but a fairly conservative part of the state, so the attitude of the teachers was pretty much, “I have to teach you comprehensive sex ed, but I wish I could just tell you to not have sex and go take a nap for the rest of class.” They showed a lot of videos of…

Thank you everyone for your very helpful responses! I feel better about going into work tomorrow.

Hi Jezzies! I was wondering if anyone has advice with how to politely deal with a coworker who gives unsolicited advice. I eat lunch almost everyday with another woman at work who started working at our office a few weeks after I did, and while she is mostly quite nice, she has a tendency to give me (and everyone…

Oh no! I hope you’re feeling better. I got a stomach virus twice in less than a month (second time was shorter and milder, thankfully), so my digestive system has also not been cooperating lately.

The reason I was able to sublet the room that I did between my junior and senior year of college was because the guy my roommates were thinking of giving it to before me ended up creeping them out. You could think of it as opening a room up for a not creepy person?

Very convenient how that article didn’t feature male comedians like Hari Kondabolu or W. Kamau Bell (granted, he doesn’t live in NYC, but still) who seem to be able to still do the same/very similar jokes as they did before the #metoo conversation started last fall. I guess interviewing male comedians who don’t need…

Congratulations!

I’ve been reading a lot of YA lately, so right now I’m reading a book called Scythe. It’s about a future society where people have figured out how to stop people from dying (no more diseases, they can reverse aging, and all injuries can be healed), but because of that they need to do something about population…

I once got catcalled multiple times while I was shivering from a fever (even though it was like 80 degrees out), and on the verge of vomiting because I had a stomach virus and was trying to get home so I could throw up in a toilet instead of on the street. Maybe I should have just tried to throw up on the catcallers?

I’m not quite sure. I’m also trying to deal with the fairly onerous steps to register, though now you can apparently register to vote online, so it may be slightly easier if you don’t live near a consulate. I think you may still have to go to a consulate or embassy to vote though. I’m lucky that once I’m registered, I…

I’ve been following the election pretty closely since I’m a dual citizen (but still need to register to vote...) and was really hoping that at least one of the countries I can easily live in would elect a president who isn’t a dumb bigot. At least Costa Rica delivered. Maybe it’s time for me to move now?

For me, it’s probably 1984. I never had to read it for school, so I guess I’ve always just kind of been like, “Oh, I’ll read it eventually...” and just haven’t yet even with the US going to hell in a handbasket?

I’ve been at my job for three months now (which means I can start using my vacation days) and things are going really well. Also, it’s my first full time job with benefits, so it feels like a big deal to me (I got stuck in part time jobs right out of college, and then I went to grad school, so I feel like I’m too old…

I made a cassoulet with Italian chicken sausage, white beans, grape tomatoes, and garlic so that I don’t have to do as much cooking during the week. It’s super easy to make since it’s mostly just tossing all the ingredients in a baking dish, sprinkling some salt and pepper on top, then sticking it in the oven for like…