I really appreciate your input on this topic. I was feeling a little confused reading a lot of this discussion. I'm about as white as possible, born and bred in America, and not at all religious. I've had Indian women actually put bindis on my forehead and tell me I should wear them more often because they…

Actual Hindu woman here and Rajan Zed is full of crap. He promotes this absurd, fundamentalist, Hindu nationalist (India's equivalent of the Christian right) vision of Indian culture that doesn't really correspond to anything I've seen in India itself. Sacred chants and images of gods and goddesses are one thing.…

I have to say it again: this is a NON issue, ladies! There's a contingent of fundamentalist Hindus out there who want to religion-ify Hinduism, and who are waiting to take offense at anything. But it's OK. Hinduism is too massive and diverse and old to be religion-ified. So stick those bindis on your head, go ahead!…

Oh, well, look at that. There's a space for these lovely men right here in my apartment.

I'm with you on pretty much all of this.

But I think "If it happens, it happens." is not generally the mantra of people who are waiting for someone to drop in their lap. That shows an ambivalence about it happening at all that doesn't jive with what she's saying here. As someone else mentioned, the other implied side of that phrase is "And if it doesn't, it…

I dunno. I agree that if you're looking for a relationship, it takes some effort; if there's a woman/man you're attracted to, obviously you can't expect the universe to sort itself out. You have to actually take steps to make it happen. But by the same token, there's a difference between the idea of "if it happens,…

I feel it is my duty to act as your second.

Anyone want to return the favor for me?

These are my feelings as well. I'm still processing it. I will say I think a lack of regulation is a serious problem.